i wrote a while back looking for advice re: telling my ex that I was dating already, very soon after the breakup.
It went well, and we remain friends, though he needs his space and time and I can respect that. His main concern being whether there was any physical contact involved prior to our breakup. He had mostly become apathetic about our relationship and that question was more about pride and ego than any major affection concern. I've come to realize we have very different opinions on how to love someone.
..however...my new boyfriends ex, who lives in the apartment underneath me, is taking things a little less calmly.
I'm almost starting to become afraid of what she might do. She attacked him the night he broke up with her, and while there haven't been any incidents, I am getting a little antsy about my physical safety.
I don't want to feel like a b**ch for being at my own home with my new boyfriend, and we try to remain out of sight as much as possible. It is a fairly complicated situation, as the building we live in is an old converted house, and we are all more like friends and roomates than neighbors. We all share a big backyard etc.
I am sympathetic to what she is going through, though I can't deal with the anxiety and the temper-tantrums. I am 29 years old, and have no desire to behave like I am in junior high school, though it appears that that is what this is turning into. I'd like to prevent that but I don't know how.
I would like to approach her, but her sheer hatred for me is obvious, and I don't know that it would come off as anything more than condescending.
To make matters worse, her constant stories about me to her and her exes (my new) boyfriends former friends is now causing tension between my boyfriend and HIS friends.
Does anyone have any advice at all?
Thanks
Dru