Angel Wolf

But the girl is getting married. And if he loves me so much as a friend, isn't there a possibility that we could end up together? As for experimenting, I don't believe in experimenting. Personally I don't like boys. Have always found them extremely annoying and silly. I never give them a second thought. But with this boy, it's a whole new ball game. I've found the person I want to spend the rest of my life with and I love him very much. He's not an experiment. He's a part of me now and I just have to be with him.

Oh but you see, that girl has never even liked him back... She's getting married to someone else... And I know he's the one. It's him or nobody.

Hi Dan. Well, as you could tell from my post, I'm not very good at this romance thing. But if you think I share somewhat the same thought pattern as this girl, I can give you some insight. About why she suddenly gets mad at you: When I get mad at the boy I like, it's because I think he takes me for granted. When he's affectionate, I just start thinking, "Yeah right, he's probably like that with all the other girls he knows." Or "He's just playing with me." Maybe you should be a little less flirtatious? Also, do you have many other female friends? My guy does and I bristle at the thought that I am "just another one of those". Running off to other guys is what girls do to make you jealous. I don't do it because I don't want to hurt my sweetheart, but it has crossed my mind many times. Girls figure, "He'll realize how special I am and how much he wants me if he imagines me in someone else's arms." As for being told that she likes some other guy, who told you that? Because that is another hare-brained scheme that I thought of to make my guy jealous. A friend volunteered to tell him that I like someone else. Of course, I never went through with it, because I didn't want to hurt him. Joking around and not getting anywhere: He and I are always joking too, always playfully chiding each other. We're famous for our verbal sparring. But sometimes I wish we could actually *talk*. Heart-to-heart. I want to be an important part of his life, and I want him to be involved in mine. I guess my insecurity also comes from the fact that he's in university and I'm still at high school. He has his own circle of friends, his own social life, I hardly see him, rarely know where he is, what he's doing. Anyway, if I were in this girl's shoes, I would just want to be assured that you love me and care about me no matter what. Take extra interest in her life, her feelings, her family. Girls ESPECIALLY want to talk a lot about feelings and emotions. And you have to be very understanding there because they're usually afraid they'll just drive you away. Appreciate all the special little things about her: her hobbies, her talents, her quirks, everything. Share stuff about yourself that you normally wouldn't talk about to other people. Oh, and send her flowers and small gifts ("Thought you might like this."). Let her know how important she is to you. Good luck!

I'm eighteen years old and I've been in love with my best friend's 21-year-old brother since April 2002. He and I are very good friends, although our interaction is only restricted to the Internet, as we do not live in a society where a boy and girl can go out or talk on the phone. The few times when we do talk face-to-face is when I am at my friend's house. Anyway, he has been in love with this other girl for 3 years, since long before he met me. For this reason, whenever he is affectionate towards me, I recoil as if he's trying to burn me or something. He loves and respects me and would never ever do anything to hurt me, and I know that, but whenever he sends me online hugs or calls me adorable or goes "Awwwww" at something I say, I just get all nasty. And I hurt him by saying things that I don't even mean. I get completely vicious and break his heart, but he has always been nothing but forgiving and loving. A while ago, he asked me why the hugging etc offends me. I told him I don't trust people who are too affectionate towards me. He said he understood and ever since then he hasn't shown me any of his old affection. In fact, he has become downright distant. I feel terrible. I want to tell him I didn't mean what I said, but I always say that and I just don't know if he'll believe me this time. The thing is, I love him very very much and would trust him with my life, but I just can't handle the fact that he doesn't like me back that way. And when he does show signs of feeling the same way, I think of the other girl he likes. It's just so complicated. He tries to figure me out, but he can't. Neither can I. Sometimes I think that maybe he DOES like me back but I keep driving him away with my psychotic, overemotional immaturity. I don't know what to do. Maybe I should tell him how I feel?