Mishi

i'm afraid of sex period. as far as masturbation goes.no.but oral whatever any kind of sex with men..i'm terrified of it.

Does anyone know the best way to overcome the fear of having sex with men? i've been afraid of them since i was thirteen due to tramatic stuff.and now i just want to get past it so i can have a healthy relationship.i also was wondering ..does anyone know any good tips for learning to love ones self? any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks ~Mishi~

ok sounds like everyone's pretty much answered your question and i tend to agree with whoever said "don't ask the girl to pay" i mean i believe that if a guy askes a girl out on the date for the first time around then yes he should pay.but don't ask the girl to pay and if you want to know if the girl wants to go out with you ask her streight up.don't beat around the bush.personally if i like somoene i'll ask them streight up i don't like putting around. hope this helps.

ok yeah i was molested for a long time. and yes the masturbation comes from since i can remember.i think i discovered it at six or something and have been doing i t eversince then. I can't exactly remember since it's a mental block.Don't get me wrong i love myself it's just i hate what was done to me. 8) And yes i think sex is a beautiful think if done right.it's just i live a very angry life right now and that's the only way i can compensate.i used to go out for walks but this neighborhood i live in right now i don't exactly feel safe in so i just read a book instead.or talk to my bird. seems he's the only friend i've got right now.but since i'm moving soon hopefully i'll be able to get a real life started.bad thing about me is sex is a bit addicting on the masturbation part.i'm working on that too.this is just terrible. thanks for all your help ~mishi~

ok i'm not sure i'm even in the right place to post this or not but maybe someone can help me out. I just recently lost my father june 25th '03. and ever since i've been wanting sex to fulfill my anger and other emotions. here's a backstory on me. i was sexually molested as a child from the ages of thirteen to sixteen. now whenever i get angry or frustrated i feel the need to want sex.is that normal or what? and everytime i get frustrated or just upset i feel the need to *blush* masturbate to make myself feel better. and sometimes it goes on for days or even hours.so what do i do? is this normal? i've heard that sometimes when you get angry your body does weird things and sometimes the only way to calm down is to masturbate.is this true? i could use some help on this if possible thanks ~Mishi~