OK i have a male best friend, ive recently discovered that i have feelings for him that go beyond friendship. However I'm pretty sure he doesnt like me in that way. Hes completely obsessed with a girl he met a year ago who was the perfect girl according to him. Ive seen him try to form other relationships but it seems that none of the girls live up to this girl he met and has not seen since. First and foremost im his friend and i hate to see him get depressed over something he cant change, ie seeing this girl again, but its difficult for me to listen to him exponding his feelings for her and comparisons with other girls he has gone out with while having and concealing my own feelings from him. Recently it feels like this is driving me out of my mind and ive even thought about contacting the girl myself and trying to set up some form of contact between them to cheer him up. but i dont want to do anything to destroy the friendship.
So... several areas i need advice on... can i help my friend in his obsession without spoiling our friendship? How can i deal with my feelings without destroying our friendship? and how am i going to prevent myself going completely crazy while i await any advice you might give?
Any advice, criticisms, harsh truths, welcomed
Cy
