I think you may benefit from my advice because I am in a 'similar' situation, and although I know I can go out and find someone who perhaps loves me a little more (often)... easier said than done. We like what we like, and unless the relationship is distructive or harmful to you, then there's no reason to forbit yourself from seeing him... just don't expect more than what your getting, and keep your options open as far as meeting new people. What qualities do you look for in a man? Think about this and write it down in a journal. Do you want to get married someday? What type of marriage do you want to have? Write down your thoughts. If you know what type of relationship you are seeking, it will be easier for you to see how you can fill your own needs, instead of only filling the needs of others. You love this guy, right? Lucky him. He has the best of both worlds... freedom to do whatever the heck he wants... and the convenience of someone to fall back on when he needs support. Accept who he is completely.. accept that you have a on-and-off relationship with him. You have not accepted him because you are resisting and questioning the relationship. Don't expect anything more from him than what your getting. If he calls you once a month, let him... and don't call him in the meantime. If you answered my questions above and wrote your answers down, then you know what you want in a man and what you wrote probably doesn't describe the guy we are talking about here, right? Keep your eyes open for Mr. Right... figure yourself out and don't waste time figuring out this guy... you already know what he's like. Enjoy him for what he's worth, since he'll probably never be marriage material. Remember: Be strong and confident and know what you want.. if you do, men will want to better themselves to be with you.. and you'll have you're choice on who YOU spend your time with.
