Jessiepunk55

Hey all readers, I have been in a relationship for 4 months so far, recently my boy friend broke up with me. We are both 18 years old and i think he wants to grow up to fast but then again he is doing foolish things. My boy friend broke up with me cause he lives 200 miles away from me and said he cant handle a relationship in which he thinks that im not making an effort to get a job or look for one, which thats what i was doing but things take time. Anyways, I was also taken advantage of at a party once and this was when we were still together, he said he looks at me diffently because i have been with another man. I didnt want to be with another man. I love my ex- boy friend to death. I know im still younge and i shouldnt be dependent on his love so when i had talked to his last night over the internet i told him that maybe some blue moon i'll find a guy that will love me and understand me. He acted like if he didnt care. Then he was telling me that i wont find anyone else that is as great as he is and the love that we shared. I told him that well its all differnt because people have different effects on others on making em happy. And so he took it as if i was lieing to him the whole time when we were in love. I tried to tell him that he was not understanding what i had said and he said he didnt care that no matter what he couldnt believe me. Well soon after he told me that i have a chance. no relationship right now but if i do what i am suppose to then he'll take me back when he moves back to where we use to live. He said that he is not going to work for us, that he is going to worry about him self and that he can do whatever he wants and especially get into a relationship. But, see i cant do any of that. I have to be like a slave to him to prove that i love him. I understand it in a way, and i defently want to prove to him that i love him and i know he loves me. he said that he was concidering taking me back before i started telling him about how i will find someone else and how others had made me happy. But aparently i blew that and so now i feel as if i want to prove to him that i love him, but how do i know if when he returns that he'll still love me? I would be single and missing out on a lot of activitys with my friends. So i dont know i just need some advice, my ex seems to be a little immature and also he was being selfish with the relationship and he wanted me to feel bad but once i showed that i was a strong person he got sad and angry. He says that he is mature and what not but i find that hard to believe. im also immature myself but i tried to settle things decently. thank you for your time jessie

Thanks to you people for the helpful advice, I'm crying now because we do talk on the internet from time to time and i asked him some questions about the whole friends with benefits and the question was "am i only going to get hurt in the long run?" and he said "what makes you think that you will be hurt?" when we talked it felt so weird, he did treat me like a friend and thats not what i aparenly want. I told him "i thought that i was the one for you?" he said "i never said you werent" why would he continue to tell me these things? why am i a big part of his life? and then again im not? cant something make this pain go away? i feel like i would be sad if i heard he was with another girl. I feel so lost and empty inside. I feel like im trapped in these emotions and there is no way out, why is he treating me like this? tell me this is all a dream, tell me that everything is going to be fine. make these tears stop rolling down my face. I'm sorry but im real upset right now. Thank you all again. feel free to IM me on AIM. thank you good bye

I cant understand how people can be friends with their ex's cause my guy just left me a couple of days ago and i cant get over him, i loved him so much and i still do and see the funny thing is is that he wants to be friends with benifits, what the hell is that about,hu?!?! I mean why would guys do that to their ex's? it could happen cause i was friends with my ex boy friend from along time ago but we no longer talk because at a party he took adavantage of me, but enough about me and yes you can still be friends it just takes time, time only heals. and what hurts us only makes us stronger...take care guy!

Dear readers, I am facing a problem. I was going out with the sweetest and most attractive guy that i have even layed my eyes on. We were going onto 4 months of our relationship when he dumped me, recently i had went to a party and was taken adavantage he said he didnt blame me but i still think he does. he dumped me saying that he couldnt handle a relationship when being 300 miles away from him lover. I dont think thats it honestly. I also found out that he was asking my friend that if she would hook up with him if we werent going out. He came over this last week end and he wanted to be with me, it felt like we were lovers again. But then he said he didnt want the relationship that all he wanted to be was friends with benifits, what the hell is that? I mean i still want this guy in my life i love him so much but i was told that he is just a scum bag and i dont deserve that. but why in the hell would he still want to continue to be with me if he dosent want a relationship, he is only going to hurt me and i know it.What should i do? should i keep my head up high and let him know what he is missing or should i give him that chance to be friends with benifits? please help me!!! AHHHHHH im going crazy man!