Ok - me and my boyfriend are 10 days from our year anniversary.. but today we broke up. We went through a very rough time for a few moths. First of all, he lives a 5 hour flight away.. but we somehow make it work for this year. We both agreed that if we didn't move closer to each other by october of this year that we would not be able to stay together and do another year like this.
Anyways, we went through a really rough time these last few months. I lost 2 close family members, my family was torn apart and I was forced to move into a new place far from my friends - on top of that I am very unhappy in my job. I know I took a lot of this out on him an my friends.. being sad and needy and all this other stuff. I pushed him and he reacted badly. We made it through.. but this last weekend I pushed him to far and we had both had enough. We didn't talk for 2 days.. just to cool off and figure out what we were doing.
when he came back into town we talked on the phone. He apologized for a lot of stuff and I did as well.. it was the first moment I felt like we were actually making sense to each other. unfortunately it was too late. He came over today and said that we were not ready to move in together.. that we needed time to heal from this first and we don't have that time as he moves back next week.
I know this killed him - he was balling and so sad. He has been unable to sleep or eat and eveing getting sick (which isn't him at all) and I have been the same way. He is staying at a friends house and we have to work together over the next week - or at least work in the same place. I dont know what to do. I know we both want this.. we just don't know what we can do since our time is limited. I want to move there and just get my own place to see if we can work it out.. but I don't know if I should. Should I talk to him or give him his space. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
