thehatelove

she is having confusing feelings she keeps having the urge to be with other guys and she said she doesnt know why this is hurting me bad because i didnt do anything wrong at all and i feel as if im being tortured and punished. she told me she wanted some time off from me and our serious realitionship and spend some time to think. i know she just wants some time away from me to be with him. ive told her to just stop and realize that im right in front of her and i wanted to help. and she does this to me. and now im just real bummed and what if she sees me acting all happy and decides that she doesnt want to be with me ever again? just curious. i wouldnt want that to happen. i would do anything to do the oppasite but i was just wondering

but wouldnt give her the message that its ok for her to do these thing to me and having me wait while shes out with this guy? or do i have it all wrong?

how should i do that? should i hide the feelings i feel? because im all upset

so me ang my girlfriend are taking that break that she said she needed. i agreeded to give her the space she needed but now what? i know she is now hanging out with this other guy and i get the feeling they are "doing stuff" i still want her back and we talked about it and she said she would come back to me she just needs her time off away from me for a while because she is not used to being in a serious relitionship. im trying hard to keep it cool and stay calm for the time being and not trying to bug her. what would be the best thing or things to do while waiting for her to return and i want her to realize that this guy she is hanging around is not as imporant as i am am i thinking the wrong thing?? should i not worry? what should i do? how should i act away and with her? im so confused

yes i must apologize for that. i didnt mean to make it offensive. it was a word i just quickly found easiest to use.

no. she has never been in a long realitionship before. weve been going out for a year. and i found out this guy likes her. i noticed because they hung out a lot and talked on the fone. we had a long talk and i thought everything was ok. i told her that him and her couldnt happen and i want her to stick with me. so i let her talk to this guy and she said she told him what i said. but now today she told me shes confused and wants a break

my girl wants to take a break and be away from me. she said she wants to because she doesnt know why she is acting gay and wants time to breathe. i dont think thats the case. if it is then i might understand but i want to find another way.

ok me and my girlfriend have been going out for a year. and a couple days before our first year we were hanging around and we got into deep conversation and i asked her if she had ever cheated on me. and she confessed that she had kissed another guy. i got upset because she knows better and that i wouldnt do that. i asked her what happened and all she said was she hung out with this guy from 11 pm to 3 am and "it just happened. i dont know why" and it didnt make a lot of sese to me i forgave her and i had her promise me not to do stuff like that again because i love her. but the next day she confessed that ever since she was going out with me, she had always wanted to make out with all these guys. i got mad because she never told me until after a year of dating. but now evertime she is going to hang out with a guy or a couple of guys i keep thinking shes going to do it all over again. she even said she doesnt trust herself! she said she doesnt know why she has these feelings and urges to. but she said she doesnt trust herself because she might do it again. well im hurt because i have written and told her that everythings ok and that i believe in her that she wont do it again. but she keeps getting upset why is she like this? is it because shes not used to be dating a guy this long and wants other guys now? i feel like im not worth anything to her but i dont wanna let her go. i dont know what to do at this point. in the back of my mind i keep thinking that she will and i get upset because i want her to only want me. shes been hanging around all these guys, dancing with them, feeling their abs and muscles and what not and im jelouse and upset at the same time. but i dont want to let her go. i want everything to go back to normal. any advice?? am i going crazy???