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no, I don't want to be single again. I guess I'm kind of answering my own question really. I don't want to break it off with her becasue I don't want to go back and live at my parents, and I don't want to lose my sex life. And I'm worried about what it would do to her. I'm not that worried about missing her though, and this is what's worrying me, because surely that means I'm only going out with her for convinience of having a girlfriend?

I think I do love her, but I don't know if it's true love or like how you love your best friends. I know I sound arrogant suggesting that I'm smarter than her. But given our general interests and hobbies and the fact that whenever she finds me watching any other than the simpsons, she complains it's boring and makes no sense, even if it's just the news. She even shouts at the radio in the car when they're talking about the music they've just played. She gets upset when things happen in soap operas (or this every woman?) and complains that people shouldn't be allowed to treat each other like that (urm, it's a soap opera?) There's a couple of other worrying things she'll do which make me question her general smartness, but I'm digging myself into an even deeper hole here. All I'm saying is that I'm finding it difficult relating to her on an intelletual level. (especially when she won't believe me that drinking juice counts towards you water consumption for a day). I think if we weren't going out, we would still be good friends, but she's just too high maintenance, I just feel like I can't do anything and not include her without feeling bad.

well we met over myspace, and found we were both into videogames in out spare time. She works with kids in childcare as a few other of my friends do so I knew abit about that to start with. I'd also beens ingle for five years and really wanted to get intoa new relationship so it's possible my standards have slipped down enough to go out with literally the first person to come along, I don't know if that's true though. So yeah, initially things were fine, it's only now we've got used to each other and I'm finding loads of things that wind me up about her. And I know it sounds really big headed but not chatting on the same intelligence level is really frustrating.

I keep asking myself if I'm only with her to not be alone. But then if I was to say that to her she'd probably kill herself, seriously, she's tried it years ago before she met me. And she says that right now is the happiest she's ever been in her life, which obviously makes me feel so horrible. p.s. cna the moderator please replace words with acceptable words instead of just as it can sometimes make the posts difficult ot make sense of.

Hi, I feel really bad posting this here but I need an unbiased opion so I googled for forums and this came up. Anyway, I'm currently living with my girlfriend, we've been living together for nearly six months, and going out for nearly a year. I'm 26 and she's 24. There's a couple of issues I'm unsure of how to deal with so I'll just list them in no particular order: 1. Without trying to sound horrible here. I'm a lot smarter than she is, and this causes the following problems... she hates all the films I really like, saying they're boring and she especially won't watch anything with subtitles cause she complains she can't read them and watch the film. The films she likes to watch are all aimed at teenage girls and they're basically disney drivel mostly, she'll sit there laughing loudly at them while I'm sat there bored out my mind feeling my brain slipping out my ears as my IQ drops to that of a ten year old. 2. I end up having to do everything. When we moved into our flat, I had sort out all the bills and rent agreements and getting the phone sorted because she claimed she didn't know where to start and it'd be easier if just one of us dealt with it all. Gee thanks. This goes for loads of things though, e.g. she wanted to do a college course but didn't bother finding anything out about it, so I ended up printing off the information for her, which I found in like two seconds on google. 3. She's always ill. This sounds really horrible but it's not what you think. I don't hate her for being ill, she just doesn't do anything to help herself stay healthy. We joined the local gym a few months back because she wanted to, I didn't need to join because I'm already in good shape and attend martials arts classes twice a week anyway. So I agreed to join the gym with her, pay my fees (£28 / $55) a month and go with her when she's wanting to go. The problem is she never wants to go because she's always too tired from working or just doesn't feel very well. She says she'll go more often when she's fitter. Is it just me or that a contradiction? So yes, it's frustrating to pay money for something I didn't want to do and don't even get to use. OH, and as for the being ill thing, she blames the doctors for not giving her strong enough pain killers or being crap instead of just eating better and getting some exercise. 4. She embarrasses me infront of my friends. She doesn't know this. But I find her embarrassing sometimes when she's talkign to my friends. The reason is that she's suffering from depression and keeps thinking people think she's weird. So her round this is to tell people she's just met that she's got depression that she's on medication for and that her life's completely . So yes, this immediately makes all my friends make awkward faces at me, and I keep getting asked if things are okay with us. Her family keep telling me I'm a strong person for staying with her this long because she's so high maintanence. 5. She get's really jealous if she so much as sees me look at any girls when we're out. The prime example is a few weeks ago. We were out clubbing, and a girld walked through the room wearing hardly anything at all, for the first second I thought she actually had no top on. So I being a human being get distracted for a second. My girlfriend doesn't say anything at this point, she just goes quiet and I had to ask her ten times what was wrong before she asked me "why were you staring at that in there? do you want to go take her home instead of me?" I laughed and hugged her and said "of course not, don't be silly". But she wouldn't believe me, this ended up with us walking three miles home in the pouring rain with me trying to explain why I was distracted but she wouldn't believe me and kept saying I didn't find her attractive. So hyeah, that was a bad night, but we don't talk about it now. So here's the bottom line... I think I love her, there are days when everything's great and I love being with her. But deep down I keep thinking she's not smart enough for me, she's too jealous of my friends which are girls, I can't glance at other women without comments fro her. I can't watch any films I like with her because she think's they're all boring or because they've got subtitles. So what do I do?