adecentguy

If your getting uncomfortable with all of it, why don't you inform the site and see if you can get her block or something like that... maybe they might be able to be of some assistance or you could just close your account with the site and open a new one under a different name or try a different site alltogether? ... don't really know what else too suggest other than that, anyone sensible wouldn't give out their details over the interenet or ask for them... for all you know the passport she has sent you could be stolen, foarged etc and i just wouldn't trust her FULL STOP!

I'd be rather careful, more than likely she'll try and make a relationship with you just to ensure she can become a permenant resident within the US (or something along those lines). If your unsure, don't reply i mean i'd say go with what you feel is right, but it does sound very odd and personally i would just ignore the emails. Dating sites are a good way of making new friends and meeting people but somehow that just doesn't seem right. Also, like you said... why would she come too your town? If it's making you think and ask questions? then it's obiously wrong, but it is entirely up too you how you wish to proceed. Have you spoken to any friends about this? getting their prespective might be useful also Hope this helps in some way... adecentguy

I know that being shy hasn't given me anything but then again it's not like i can turn confidence on like a switch of a button or buy off a shelf although that would be better lol, but i consider her average looking, pretty (appearance wise, in my eyes anyway). It's just i feel a little intimidated by her, i think it's quite possibily her confidence or the way she portrays herself... is this normal to feel this way? just curious lol I mean i can ask her and there's the possibility of getting "shot down" but then if i do, i can move on but it doesn't exactly do my confidence any favour and again i'll be in the same situation. But i do know that if i don't try i'll get no where but it's hard when, i mean i have that so-called "Nice Guy Syndrome" and trying to break that but it's hard, im tired of being girls friends and want to be more appealing to women but i don't know where too start, my confidence, appearance... i can go but im sure you get the just of it. I guess im just very unsure of myself and need alot more practice, but living in such a rural place with limited place to go it makes it even harder. Other than at University doing assignmens, assessments etc im at work on the weekend to pay for tution fees and everything else that needs paying off but i am trying to give myself some free time i booked 2 weeks off work in Feburary and hopefully going to out with some friends. Seezing the moment and hoping the best is what i can only do, i know but it's hard... if i did decide to do it, should it be done during or after work? because im unsure of her time-table with us being on different departments in the store? Thanks for the advice so far, im still open to other people's advice if anyone can spare some time.

Hi!, my first thread and hopefully its in the right place... Well for the past few weeks i have been increasingly attracted to a colleague at work, i work at Wal*Mart which has only recently opened (about 4 months ago, so still quite new) and we have both been given extra responsibility as we are both part-time Supervisors (but different departments). Im just having difficulties talking or making any sort of conversation (probably from a lack of confidence) to her in any possible situation through work. I greet her and say "hi" when ever i see her and she smiles but then again working in Wal*Mart were supposed to that anyway,wherever we are within the building lol. Im not a confident person (... Full Stop!) and not having the best experience with girls has left me very un-experienced so im just not sure how too approach her, she's nice but she seems to have quite a strong confident personailty which probably 1 of the things im attracted too (only because its the opposite of me). I just don't know how to get her too notice me, i mean majority of the time how i show my interst is an in-direct approach which doesn't usuall bode well with some women, again i just put it down to lack of experience and confidence. What im after is possible conversation starters and possible ideas to get her to notice me, kinda hard when were all wearing the same colour and uniform lol, anyway any advice is appricated as i have nothing too loose and hopefully something to gain. Thanks... adecentguy