Hello
I have been in a serious relationship with this girl since the past 3 and a half years. We have had our ups and downs. To start with, we both are 23 yrs old and have known each other for 7 yrs and have studied together in da same institue for 2 and a half years!
There was a phase when i got drunk on a party and ended up cheatin on her by seein 2 girls at the same time. I felt bad about it and told her the truth in within 2-3 days!. She took her time and gave me a second chance!. N i have never loved anyone as much as i love her!
There was another phase when she met her ex after 3 years of bein in touch with him because he was in town and she ended up kissin him and holdin hands with him and told him she still loves him!! And after 13 days of questioning she finally told me about cheatin on me. She said she was meetin him after long so her mind had stopped workin and that she wasnt thinkin about anything. She said that it was just a bad day when she became really weak! She said she wants to be wid me!! It took me 8 months to get over this. She broke all contacts with her ex. Stopped recievin his calls. Or replyin to him in any kind of way. I no i can trust her because her ex, me and my girl had a very mature talk on this topic online!.
Well we both have been good and bad in this relationship. With time, we both have become really attatched. And are totally in love. The level of trust is at its max!
Now a week back, We had wat u can call, the most important discussion. She said she does not want any commitment from now on because she is not sure wat the future holds for her. She is not sure where she ill be. And she is not sure whether her parents will be ok with this relationship rite from the beginning because her parents are a lil weird! (They gave away her 7 yr old dog because they thought it was brinigin bad luck!! so they have really diff views compared to normal people!)
She said this is her last relationship because in another 2 years.. her parents want her to get married( Again they want her to get married to a guy of their choice.. its really complicated). So she does not want me to get attached to her because she doesnt want me to get hurt in the future if her parents dont allow her to move in with me and eventually.. marry me! she said if after 2 yrs.. we still feel the same about each other, Then we'ill surely get rite back on track.
Its been a week since we decided that we ill be there for each other and we ill be in a relationship.. but we ill cut out da commitment. So we broke up! I am not understandin wat kind of a relationship am i in now. No commitment, But we are not goin to see anyone else. No future plans, But we are still in love!!. Is this idea goin to work?. Frankly speakin, I dont see any change in our behaviour, We still have sex, We still have long chats on da phone. The only diff i can see is that i am no more feelin the attachment i used to feel in the past. Suddenly we both seem to be very excited everytime we meet or talk on the phone!. This is going over my head!. I can feel no attatchment. We are in love!. But... No committment? I really cant see any diff..
Just help me out. Y did we break up when we doin everything that couples do?? Y did we break up when we have no plans of seein anyone else??
This is a very confusin discussion and i am hopin for the older members of this forum to help me out!!.
