I am living a tricky moment and would really appreciate your opinions.
Basically, I have developed feelings for a work colleague. I am in control of my emotions. However, I am interested in taking this forward. But I realise the work situation adds extra complications.
We didn't meet in person until last autumn (despite working in the same vicinity for a good few years), but various things have changed and now we seem to be in touch every day.
After we had finally met, a few things happened which gave me the idea that she could be interested in me.
Then I found out she has been single for nearly a year. She's not enjoying it either and has been quite upset apparently. So I naturally put two and two together.
She's naturally very friendly around everyone, but I've been looking for things that she's said or done which could constitute as positive signals.
In her Christmas card to me she wrote a really nice message and thanked me for my 'excellent' work. She does compliment me a lot actually. Just last week she gave me a couple of chocolate biscuit bars while I worked on a routine task for her. I'd never known anyone do that before! It was so nice of her.
She has always emailed a lot since we met. I wanted to wish her well for Christmas, so decided to email about something just before she went off on holiday, and it turned out she had planned to do exactly the same! Coincidence or was she thinking the same as me?
Then first day back after the holidays I was going to email something to say Happy New Year. Then the phone rang and it was her. Just little things like this felt quite encouraging.
I also feel our meetings are quite highly charged. For example, I tend to blush sometimes - and I've noticed she is the same.
And when we speak to each other, she occasionally comes out with some bizarre comments. Does this mean she could be nervous? I go quite shy but she seems the opposite.
Sorry to ramble. I'm just trying to build a picture. What do you make of these things?
I really like her. She's such a nice girl. I'd love to ask her out - but obviously I wouldn't be writing this unless I had a few concerns.
I'm just conscious of making things awkward, especially now we see more of each other. We don't share the same office but it would still be pretty weird if she didn't feel the same.
Also she is older than me so maybe I've just misinterpreted her friendliness and she doesn't see me in the same way at all. I like to think positively but am I being naïve?
But at the same time I am not a coward and am aware that I could stupidly miss out on a beautiful, caring, kind, and very special girl.
I'm very interested in your opinions. Should I hold back and see how things go, at the risk of her finding someone else? Should I take the plunge and tell her how I feel? Maybe I could email and suggest we go out sometime? I'm just not sure.
Thank you so much!!
