After reading all of the feedback and advice that people have posted i think you have hit the nail on the head. Last night we had sex for the first time in about a month and it was fantastic, the trouble i have now is afterwards i always tell myself that i will pick up the pace i.e. have sex more often but it never seems to happen. With regards to porn do you think it is acceptable to masterbate on occasions when i am alone and wife is at work? I suppose the whole lack of sex arises when i have recently masterbated and don't feel like i have the energy to go again although at 27 this should not be the case. Do you know of anything i can take to improve my libido? After writing my problems down i felt like i had shared a problem and felt like i had sorted the issue out in my head. Thanks to all for the advice i intend to start 2007 with a positive attitude and to make my marriage/relationship what it used to be