SonambulatingSpecialist

Miracle, if some members take offence it's partly the wording you used in your first post, it does sound rather acusationary, and directed towards "maleness" in general, rather than issues dealing with one male in particular.

Who determines weather an orgasm is "premature" anyway? Who has set the standard? Women, perhaps, but if men themselves were truly satisfied with their own climax, then why would they rate it as premature? I believe that ejaculation actually circumvents orgasm, which is what most men truly want to achieve. You know, orgasm, the psychosexual climax that stands apart from the physical process of ejaculation. Thusly, many men are unsatisfied. It’s interesting than men are taught that they must “remain in control” and women are told to “open up” and relax when having sex. If men focus on the more emotional aspects of sex and themselves “open up”, they might naturally remain in control, a task that is difficult considering our mechanistic focus during intercourse. Think less, we might be able to orgasm more. Women in this situation should learn a bit more about the mechanics of male orgasm. The penis has different erogenous zones that induce different responses! Stimulating the underside of the glans seems to bring about quick ejaculation. But no guarantee of orgasm. And what area experiences a great deal of vaginal contact during intercourse? The teaching of orgasm has become so vaginal-centric that no one seems to be aware of this. So, before you suspect selfishness, egoism or arrogance, think for a moment about the male perspective. It’s partly biological ( ease of impregnation) partly physical ( mechanics of intercourse) , perhaps emotional ( emotional disconection ) and probably caused by more than a little bit of ignorance on both sides. Forget the desensitizing cream, recognize the limits of ejaculatory cycle and try to move beyond them, it's all we can do.

From what i've read of most clinical definitions of male orgasm , you'd never know any sensations are involved at all, most being focused on the obvious the physical processes involved. The sexual community online seems to have a confused definition of orgasm and ejaculation and many believe that both are synonymous and physically inseperable. I don't think this is true. It's quite possible for us to EJ without the O, and also possible to O without the EJ... if you follow me. Most of the time it's a combination of the two. I think females do this too, but being male means being "rigged" for relatively easy EJ. O can be just as elusive for men as it is ( and has been rather well publicized) for women. EJ feels like it is; a series of physical contractions and emissions, sharp but not lasting. Orgasm seems to much more emotionally fullfilling, probably involves a more advanced part of the brain or a different/ larger part of the nervous system... it's just broader, better, more encompassing. It might involve rapid breathing, clenching, tingling sensations, vasocongestion ( reddening) in the upper body ect, leading up to the climactic moment. Who's really is aware of what's happening then or thereafter hmmm? So, I don't personally believe that volume of ejaculate really improves the subjective outcome ( not a pun!) of male climax. I believe the pleasure, in that case, is taken as pride-of-performance. A man's glans and a female's clitoris are largely homologous, or the same. Somone pointed out that the clitoris has more nerve endings. I've heard that, because of it's size vs the glans, the nerve endings are simply more concentrated, and produce similar sensations. For us, stimulating the glans (head) leads to a orgasmic response, and on the ventral (underside) stimulating the frenum is more likely to induce EJ. Wish all the women's and men's mags out there would pick up on this. Sorry I just realized how dry and clinical this post is. That's the influence of textbooks i'm afraid. Thanks for reading!