After three years of an up and down relationship I have finally told my bf that we just need to be friends. He likes to drink and that is when we fight. Any time I say anything about it he says that I "nag" him. He has gotten really mean with me before while drunk and got up in my face and started screaming. I just don't like him when he's drunk and he can't go out and have a drink or two, he has to get hammered. I have asked him not to drink at home anymore and as soon as I did this he decided to look at joining the military. He is pursuing that now and he has started going out with the guys he works with on occasions and gets totally wasted before coming home. I have given him everything he has wanted. He wanted new camping gear..he got it. Motorcycle, 4-wheeler, expensive mattress, whatever....he gets it. I have done everything I could to make him happy and yet he still thinks that I am the one that causes the problems because I ask him not to drink. He tells me that he is a grown man and he will drink if he wants to and nobody is going to tell him what to do. We were going to get married last hear and I called it off. He now tells me that he just wants to live together for the rest of his life, because he dosen't want to go through another divorce. I always come second to everything he wants. I just love him so much. He lives in my house and I like him being here, but I just can't deal with his drinking. He says that I should just accept him like he is and for me to just get along with him. Every time we argue it is my fault and I cause all the problems, according to him. He reminds me of how easy he is to get along with. He also tells me that I will not find a man that don't drink. I just wonder, am I wrong. I would really like some advice on whether or not to keep trying. He just informed me that he would be going out with some of his friends on New Years Eve. He said that he would ask me to go, but he knows I don't like being around a bunch of drunks, so he isn't going to ask. He ruined last New Years for me because we went to a mutual friends house and he got hammered. I had rented a hotel for us and everything and spent the evening listening to him snore. I know I sound stupid, but I just love him and I don't won't to give up to soon.