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yes i may have a lot of defects and yes i have had them for a long time. But with her i have been the best person, i have suported her, i have taken care of her and i think that is the very scence of love, loving someone not because the way he is with everybody but because the way he is with YOU. And besides that i am not evil, i just have a great sense of myself, a great ego, but i treat her right, i respect her, i have done everything i could, i think that she just doesnt want me, sometimes she told me that approaching her as a friend first was a bad estrategy, and i think that just doesnt have any sense, it was never my intent to be more than friends, is that imposible to pass from being best friends to be a couple?. Do i have to approach every woman with vague intentions just in case?, the thing is i still feel terrible...

You are all right, i think i'll just stop seeing her and if it hurts her too bad, because she is hurting me now, and it's getting worse. i think she is very egoist, not because she doesn't love, nobody should be obligated to love anyone, but because she says she loves me, that i am good looking, and things like that, but that she can't just be with me. Like clementine said it is already hurting so i don't see the difference. I'm gonna use this vacations to get used to the idea of not being with her.

sometimes i think that also, that walk away is the right to do. But the thing is that i see her 8 hours a day at school, in the same classrooms, and if i stop talking her (trust me, i have done it) she or her family talks to me, and make me changes my mind, even thought i'm very egoist, with her i just can't. And she really loves me, she shows me signs of affection that no one else, for example on my last birthday she made a huge board saying happy birthday! and place it in the school hall, took me to a restaurant and made me a surprise party, she indeed loves me as her brother. I am really affected by this situation.

Hi. Here i'll be the specialist. My sad history is this: I'm 21. And Computer Science College Student. I Am 6' 2''. my Weigth 187 lbs. My Body Is Very Athletic 'cause i train 2 hours a day 6 days a week n the gym for two years now. althought i am one of the biggest geeks on earth you couldn't tell (if you don't see me programming) because of my look and the fact than i don't use glasses, pocket protectors, palms, no gadgets. But i love my career. Now What this have to do with anything.... Two years ago i met this cute cute women, she is so nice, christian, beautiful, social. I start to talk to her normally, she had a boyfriend by that time, i get more involved with her and suddenly i was her best friend. But the thing is since day 1 i have being in love with her. 6 months ago she dumped her boyfriend and i came into action, i revealed my feeelings to her, she was very shocked, later she told me that we had to talk. In "the talk" she told me that she had knew of my former sexual behaviour (the whole package: oral, three-some, etc) and that maybe and against her religion she forgive me, but that she wants me as her BROTHER, it really pissed me of, but analizing the situation is not just the typical phrase to keep someone in the "friend zone". I Know her parents, her brothers and sisters treat me as one of them, she is so loveable with me, give me kisses all the time, flowers, unicorns and things like that. And she has a lot (i mean a lot) of guys that want to be her boyfriend, and she has told me that she is not going to be with anyone until i let go of her, of my love, i have tried everything to get her but she is not gonna fall. Now my life is a living hell, in gym i cannot concentrate, i just can't, i love everything related to my computer career, but since her rejection i can't find pleasure on it, i can't take pleasure on anything. I am a very unlikeable person, i am hateful, egocentric, narcissist. And i am nearly uncapable to have a serious relationship because of that with all women not being her i behave like i was the center of the universe, all the times i got sex was just for my look, but now i don't enjoy that i feel like crap anytime i do that casual sex. I have tried anything, being an with her, so she just hate me and i can move on, but she calls me crying and tells me that i shouldn't be like that and i end up feeling like crap and crying, yes crying, if i'm with her i'm all hapiness if i don't see her i feel down, i just wish i hadn't met her, to erase her from my memory. Give me some advice please... i'm desperate