shy2cool

I'm so great but will never find a girl.

Of course they don't. That's why I don't sit around doing nothing. I'd rather go places on my own, which I do.

Nope don't go there.

 

You have to be realistic in life. Virtual love is worthless in that aspect that it will never aquire you physical contact.

 

Its better to find someone within your inner circle and date someone in real life. Ask yourself the question, what good has being shy ever done for you? Nothing so put it in the trashcan , be daring and bold as you got nothing to lose anyway. Don't care for the outcome, even if everything goes wrong , you will always have a win win situation. consider it as dating lessons. You see if you never shoot , you will always miss right? And that's what basically what being shy is. If you ask someone out and they say no, you can at least say i tried, and if you ask someone out and they say yes, you got a date.

That would help if I had people in my inner circle willing to introduce me.

I'm thinking about laying down the green for some stamps so that I can contact some members that I fancy on this dating site. I was just wondering if it was worth it, as it ain't that cheap.

A shame that I dunno anyone like that.

If you don't care about friendship, go for it. You have nothing to lose!

I'm a decent guy plagued with shyness. I've never been in a relationship and always dreaming about meeting someone. My whole life is about trying to avoid feeling embarrassed and awkward doing ANYTHING. You don't have it so bad.

No, I don't find that endearing. I find that the person who is like that is so busy thinking about how THEY are feeling that I actually find it bizarrely self-centred and all about them. It's as if they think their emotions are more important than anything else in the room.

 

What I DO find attractive is someone who is nervous but having a bash anyway - that seems really brave to me, and makes me smile. I find that endearing. But someone looking aloof and haughty, I'm not that into them.

OK, let me rephrase that... what if I came up to you and asked a question, while trembling and blushing?

maybe he's just shy around all girls?

stop wasting time and effort on him and find yourself another man.

I know all about the social anxiety thing. I'm getting better, but it sometimes affects me still.

I would not give up on university; maybe try changing your major or do some courses which you might enjoy?

You need to get over your ex somehow. Try spending some more time with your friends, or try to make new ones. Occupying your time with something is a good start too.

I'd rather an intelligent girl. I love that whole innocent librarian look too, so hot.

Just put yourself out there for the world to see.

They don't sound like real friends then. I guess one advantage of doing things on your own is that you become more independent, and feel like you don't need someone to hold your hand while you do everything.

I may appear to be negative here so that I can be normal outside. I'm rarely negative in the real world.

Perhaps you should give online dating a try.

I would but the guys heavily out number the available girls. When girls have a choice, do you think they'd chose the shy guy or the outgoing guy with a nice car?

I may try again though.

I fully understand the overprotective parent thing. I guess they are not used to you being out so late and on NYE. It takes time to adjust. You have to start going out more often, and then eventually try to get your curfew relaxed.

Wow, your story is all too familiar.

Depends what you mean by 'shy'. I think when you get to your thirties, to be honest, you should be able to put other people at their ease, even if you're not feeling confident yourself. So you should be able to ask people questions about themselves, and force yourself to be polite. I find shy cute when someone is young, less cute when they get older - then it becomes social anxiety, and it seems they are more focused on how THEY are feeling, than about others. Just my thoughts though.

 

As for not being extrovert - I find that attractive. Someone who is quiet and not domineering will often snag my interest, still waters run deep and all that.

Shy as in hard to approach, appearing very aloof in public.

Well, you do seem a bit bitter about this. Did something in particular happen lately to make you think this?

A crumbling friendship. The feeling of inadequacy.

The thing is, I LOVE to talk to randoms. If you spoke to me, I would try to keep the conversation alive. It rarely ever happens though. I also find it very hard to even say hello. Also, some guys would be very intimidated by attractive women, so would be even shyer.

PS - I went to a single sex school, and then all through university was recovering from my issues of Social Anxiety.

In all honesty, people don't give a * * * * about shy people. I'm not a bitter person, but that's just the reality of it all.

Yes, but if that were the case... I would've been on at least one date by now.

Lets face it... how can non shys be attracted to us shy people beyond superficial things like looks. I mean initially, it's not like we are able to wow them with our great personality.

so why then, do people find shy people attractive at all?

It's lame but sometimes better than dealing with people who think that they are your friends.

True friends are ones that wish you a happy new year, even when they're not around.