Benson

Well Im giving her all the space in the world now, I highly doubt it if shes going to call or even come back..... Thanks for the codependancy stuff, i read it and it pretty much described her...

This is by far the hardest thing I've ever done... I just dont understand how she could just get up and leave me like that... Giving really no reason.....

heh yeah most definitely... I guess this is just one big learning experience..... a painful one. I know what everyone here is going through... (well the pain anyways) and im grateful to have you guys here.

so very true guys. thanks for the advice. I dont know why I didnt care about her having issues... We talked about it and talked about it, and I (thought) everything was ok. I told my ex that I was understanding on how she cant express herself all the time, and that I trusted her with everything I have. I had asked her to promise me that she wouldnt get up and leave me for no reason, because she couldnt tell me how she was feeling (this was like 8 mnths into the relationship) She swore to me that she wouldnt do that... And she did..... dnozzle, your post pretty much sums up what I've been thinking. I hated having control of the relationship, she wouldnt make any decisions for herself/us at really any time.. I am asking myself right now if I want to be with someone thats so dependant on others..... awesome help guys. edit: I think she just has some growing up to do emotionally...

Yea thanks alot! I figured the same thing... I saw her friend like 2 wks after the break up and I kind of broke down crying... she told me that my ex was confused and she doesnt even know what she wants Im just so used to helping her, (and I know a relationship cant be 99/1, she rarely did anything to keep it interesting) I feel pain both for her, and for me. Hehe... Love does hurt, BADLY... I think I lost 12 pounds in 2 weeks after the split.... really unhealthy... But I realize that only time will tell.

Hey guys and gals. I noticed alot of people on this forum are sharing their problems and I think thats awesome. Im askin for a little insight on this one as I dont have a clue what to think.. But it hurts... alot. My girlfriend of almost 2 years broke up with me about a month ago, we were at my house (we were about to get intimate) all of a sudden she gets up, puts her clothes back on and says "I cant do this anymore, when I kissed you earlier I felt nothing, I have to go"..... She has always had a problem expressing her feelings anywhere and is a very shy and sheltered girl of 19, (17 when I met her, I was 20) out of school for 2 years, doesnt know what to do with her life.... She was also a virgin when she met me, so I was her first sexual partner. I always tried to push her and try to get her self esteem up all the time because she doesnt think very highly of herself, and I wanted to help her the best I could... But I loved her for who she was... I know she loved me with all her heart... But when I called her up the monday after, she says that she 'wants to be alone'... I asked her if she cared for me anymore and she said she didnt know, and that she didnt think so...... Our relationship was good, for the most parts, some fighting here and there, no cheating... She just gets up and leaves me without telling me why.... And says shes been unhappy and she didnt know why until she broke up with me... and that shes happy now.. * * *??? I always asked her if anything was wrong and how she was feeling from time to time and she said fine.... All the way up until the break... She even told me she loved me on the night she broke up with me.. !? And i KNOW theres not another person grrr it STILL hurts after almost a month.