I was dumped by a guy I was seeing for about 2 months. We got on very well and really hit it off. It was a strained relationship though as he was one of my brothers friends. On top of that my guys 2 closest friend have fancied me for years and nearly everytime I saw my bf they were there. I felt that my man was trapped between to loyalties and was very aware that I was as he percieved 'a popular girl' I don't think he wanted to look too involved with me as it would only have made his 'friends' more intrusive. He is 22 and I'm 19, it took us a while to get together and we took it slow, we were very considered, so when he ended it suddenly i was very confused. Part of me could see it coming but I knew if it did it would be for the wrong reasons, but i felt powerless to change it as his friends are closer to him than I at this stage and have alot of influence with his choices at the mo. His career is also stressing him out as he 's a graduate and hasn't been able to get a job for a year now. He feels like a bit of a loser and is very stressed with himself. It seems he just wants to go out drinking at the weekend to the same places with the same people surrounded with all the familiar, safe things in his lfe and try to to get as little stress in his life as he can. He used to say I shouldn't get caught up with him. Honestly i was captivated by him, he has a wealth of potential and qualities he has naturally that make him totally amazing to me. The last night i was with him, he was all over me, we went back to his house, talked for a bit...he said he wanted me to take the lead...we never consumated our relationship but were very intimate together. I remember we just lay to gether, he was tickling my back and playing with the laces of my boots. I left that night, kinda scared thinking about how i'd take the lead! We were both scared of each other, or intimidated, I can't put my finger on it but all I'm sure of is we liked each other alot. After that night his texts dwindled and exactly a week later he phoned me and said it was over. He said it was him, not me and that his career was stressing him out and had to be a priority but said he hoped i knew he really liked me. I'm was in shock. A week after that i saw him when i was out in a local club and he ignored me. We hadn't been in contact for nearly two months and I decided to text him as I still really fancy him. He texted me back. I 'm iniciating everything tho. I need to know why he's really decided to do this and why he's shut me out to such a degree. Should I try and approach the matter when it feels appropriate or just leave it? plus is it possible that he just went off me? Your advice would be much appreciated. Cheers
