alcofrolic

Woah!! Ok. Things have changed a bit. We've just been texting and things have got... well very flirty! Would it make things too awkward if I continued this much more?

Beec, I agree with you in that we all play games, it's part of what flirting is. But I also agree with treefrogkate in that we don't have to play intentionally. I don't pretend to be someone else and would want him to like me for me. But also I'm known for not being subtle! I love flirting but wouldn't ignore someone to get a reaction if it meant they felt bad (I'd do it if it was obvious I was only joking and wouldn't carry it on unnecessarily). I don't know if I'd confront him about what he said, I'm too shy to ask something that direct.

Yeah. I don't really like playing games for fear of them going horribly wrong. We only have a week and a bit before we break up for xmas and wouldn't like to leave things too awkward! What reactions might I expect?

Yeah, I see where you're coming from. Although we work together I only help with his classes in my own time so don't actually have to work with him. He wasn't telling me about his ex but I was in the room when he was saying about it. We get on well as friends and often spend time just talking or being in one anothers company so that makes me feel like he's not just after sex, but I could be wrong. My instincts say 'yes' but then logic says 'no'. I just feel torn.

Bit of an update on a previous post. I'm really confused about how a guy feels about me. I'm 18 and he's 27. We both work in a school. On my day off (Friday) I go in to help him with some lessons and have done for a few months. Last Friday one class started asking if we were going out, obviously not a rumour we wanted going round the school even if it is untrue. Well, he's been flirting with me for quite a while but in quite a subtle, 'childish' way - for example he would poke me, or punch my leg (gently). On Thursday I devised a cunning, yet obvious plan to get his number. I wrote a note to him saying that if he wanted help on Friday to text me and then gave my number. He texted me later on that evening saying 'that was a cunning way of getting my number' so indeed my plan had worked perfectly. We continued texting and he was being quite flirty with comments such as 'you like being teased x' and 'i'm tucked up in my big bed'. So I was under the impression that he likes me. But today when I went in to help he talked about his ex from Uni that he's seeing tonight and said that she's the kinda person you can not see for ages and just pick up where they left off. Help? What should I do? I really do like him.

Woah, I didn't want this to turn into a men vs women debate! I didn't mean to imply that men don't mature, I was just referring to flirting. I agree with what has been said and I have been wondering if he sees me as a student or a woman for a while. He did make the comment on Thursday as he was giving me a lift home (which was very kind as he moved into his new flat and my house isn't on his way) that 'last year he would have given me a lift home but it might have been frowned on but he's happy to now'... or words to that effect which implies that he doesn't necessarily see me as a student? Also, he's taken delight in being able to slap my wrists when I'm 'naughty' and call me names because 'I'm not a student so he can be mean now'!

As the title suggests I'm wondering if men ever really mature? My situation takes a little explaining. I'm 18 and I work in a school, the same school I attended up til July of this year. There is a teacher (27) who I get along really well with - I help him with his lessons on my day off and he gives me lifts home etc. I do have feelings for him but I'm not sure if he feels the same way; he acts in quite an immature flirty way with me - he pokes me and punches me (playfully obviously!). As I said, we do get on well and talk quite a lot, about life or what's bothering us or just nothing. I know I haven't explained this at all well but it's confusing when you're in the middle of the situation