It's not even little white lies, at least not to me! He is loving and caring and we have fun. But- there's SO MANY THINGS HE LIES ABOUT! I'm convinced he must be some sort of pathological liar or something.
Right now I'm particularly angry because my birthday was October 29th. He's always talking about how he can't wait for birthdays and holidays with me because it will be "so special." Well for weeks now he had claimed he had reserved a $150 hotel room so we could celebrate (and drink at the bar, 'cause I was turning 21.) He kept talking about how much fun it would be and said he was gonna take me out and take me to get a tattoo (which was to be one of my presents) and get me some other stuff. Now I'm NOT a materialistic girl and don't judge by what I get from a man. But why the need to lie??
Anyhow a few days before my birthday he kept teasing me with stuff like, "you'll never guess what I got you, you're gonna love it!" and etc etc. Well, my birthday comes around... and all he does is say happy birthday (he called from work.) When he got home he never mentioned going ANYWHERE and didn't give me ANY present. Okay. Fine. Later his mom came by and brought me a cake she had made (it was very sweet) and two lovely candles. He tried to boast that he had given her the idea for the cake. (Um, perhaps but, she made the actual cake AND actually thought to buy me a gift. Again, it was very lovely.) After she left he presented me with a card, it was sooo obvious his mother had bought the card because she knew he wasn't gonna get me anything.
I had bought myself a bottle of vodka to celebrate and finally got the tipsy nerve to ask him about what happened to all those great things he was promising? He said the day before he went broke paying the light bill. Um, okay, but didn't you supposedly ALREADY get me the supposed present? Didn't you already pay for the room? And EVEN IF you HAD gone broke the day before, if you really considered me so special, wouldn't you have gotten something weeks ahead anyway???
It irks me SO MUCH, because he was making himself out to be so wonderful when it came to birthdays, and how much he wanted to do for me, and how special I am and how much he 'loves' me. Well, he told me in the beginning of our relationship that he had bought really fancy and expensive things for his wife, like a $400 coat. And he bought her a nice car, which is still in his name. I know this stuff to be fact. I don't WANT any $400 thing or a car or anything like that, nor would I expect it. I would have been so perfectly content with a quiet celebration at home, with even a damn $5 gift from Walmart. It's not the amount of money, but the fact that he cared enough to do something special like he lied and said he was gonna do. Why couldn't he be honest? ANd why did he slack so much? Why is he always lying about stuff? I told his mom about this and she just said, well he's always been like that, he always lies about little stuff. Little stuff? My butt.
I rather view this like a slap in the face. Am I overreacting?
