deemjay

Thanks so much. It does make sense and I will try accept what I cannot change. I have never felt like this in my life before and it's really horrible. I find myself thinking about what I was doing during that time. I think it's a kind of self harm thing, you know, trying to invisage what she would have been doing at that time. We are very open with each other and of course I trust her without question. Thanks.

Hi there. Please see my post It's similar but I am the jealous one so I hope my views work for you guys... As a note I have had many more partners than my current girlfriend but it doesn't stop me becoming jealous of her past. It is very distructive and can break relationships apart. My advise is to sit down with him and tell him that his jealousy will eventually ruin what you guys have. Tell him how you feel and when he gets these feelings that he must call you or speak to you. Just listen to him and make sure he knows that he is the winner and what ever else the past has done for you, he has what no one else ever had. Above all make him know that he will eventually tear you both apart. Jealousy is a natural emotion and part of our animal instinct. There is nothing wrong with it in context but it so quickly becomes out of context leading to real problems. Also tell him that what he feels is normal and there are many other men who feel the same. God knows I do! If he wants to email me about how he feels please do. Reading your story helps me understand that I am quite normal in feeling how I do. Above all, let him know how important he is to you both! Good luck

Hi there. This is all rather new to me and I have never had such strong feelings before. I know I am not alone in thinking this way but I would like to ask anyone who shares such emotions for their opinions. I met a girl last year around August. We became good friend but I kind of realised I thought more of her. I may even have started to love her. Problem is I was in a long terms relationship (11 years with house, no kids thank God!). This girl and I got on very well and she'd been single for a year. I told her all about my partner and that we where looking at splitting up. Last December the new girl told me she had a date. Of course I was upset, she knew how I felt but quite rightly wasn't going to do anything while I was with current partner. Anyway, I assumed it was one date. In January this year I had a call from the girl in question and essentially she told me she felt the same. To cut a long story short I split with current girlfriend, brought her share of house and am now steady with the new girl. However, a few days ago I found out that the relationship in December was physical and that they had slept together. I find it very hard to accept even thought I do really love this girl. I am trying to put it beind us and move on but find it very difficult even though we weren't together at the time! Really mixed up over this and would appreciate any help. I do love and trust this girl without question and accept she's done nothing wrong at all. Just want to get rid of the knot in my stomach. Any feedback wouold be fantastic thank you.