pregnantkitty_1985

Some dude said it best, "he's cheating on the relationship."

I agree with you also. I think porn is only OK if the partner is not bothered by it. The wrongness of this is quadrupled by the lie, the fact that she is pregnant, the fact that he wants her to go to bed so he can do, and the fact that he is not intimate enough with her.

I agree 100%.

No one likes to hear about anyone's sexual past, and they don't like to hear about yours either. You can ask, but often you'll find you'd of been better off not knowing. Trust me.

Oh, my bad. You didn't supply them with the alcohol (sorry). Still, the fact that you're drinking with minors (and you are the adult) just shows how wrong it all is.

You need to stay away from these young girls until they are legal at least, and don't ply them with alcohol. Now that the parents are involved, it looks like you have trouble.

I have said this before in another one of your threads, and your above post just proves my point as to why you should stay away from this young girl for now.

Your cousin???! Your... COUSIN????!?!?!?!

Um, is that something you are interested in pursuing?

16 is the legal age of consent in North Carolina.

You're right Mythical, after reading your post I was confused and have been googling this for the past 10 minutes. I apologize. However if a person is 5 years above (over 21) then it is a crime. Like my sister and her boyfriend, for example. When she was 16 he was having sex with her and he was 27. This is wrong. I think the age of consent should be changed to 18. I am shocked & dismayed to find that it is 16 here.

I know you would not agree because you have an age gap relationship, and I don't mean to be offensive. But I think the law needs to protects girls & guys so young, such as the case with my sister and BF. I consider that sexual exploitation and wrong, just wrong.

Yes, Him kissing her would be considered a sex crime. Atleast thats how it is here in the State of NC. My best friends cousin went to jail for making "sexual advances"(kissing) to his gf at the time who was 15 when he was 19. It's also hard to believe that a 23 year old male who im pretty sure has been sexually active prior to this day is going to hold out for 3 years because his gf isnt quite legal yet. More than likely they will end up doing it and just trying to hide it.

16 is not the legal age in NC, 18 is. I live here. So what are you talking about???

To the OP, leave him alone and find someone your own age. You're going to get this guy in bad trouble if you pursue this.

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Uh, no. SHE would not be getting the guy in trouble. HE would be getting himSELF in trouble if he pursued it or reciprocated anything. A man of 22 should know better than to go there with a 15 year old girl. If he did anything, it would be his own fault. You're making it sound as if he couldn't help but react or have sex with her just because she has a crush on him. A normal man of that age wouldn't be attracted to a child.

I don't know, but The Cure is awesome so, nice name.

And stop insulting Northalius for his views. That's a REAL man there.

I agree with the original poster and I definitely agree 100% with Northalius, your views on such things are great, why can't every man be the same?

So we were watching this biography show on discovery channel, it was about Benjamin..who was famous for his interest in prostitutes...so I asked my bf if he ever did one...he said only once and it was in the same bed we are currently sleep on...he said he was single and horny and desperate...it happened about 5 years ago...

 

He is quiet faithful with me and actually he is the one that I feel most secure with...but somehow thinking about it just grosses me out...he paid $350/hr so I guess he must have had a really good service...yuck...it bothers me so much...

You know, him seeking the services of a prostitute when he was single does not necessarily mean that he will be unfaithful, nor does it group him in with the cheaters.

But personally, I would not want to be with someone who had sex with a hooker. If I found such a thing out, I would dump the person I was with. Just a personal opinion. I think prostitution should be legal because if they want to sell their body, that's their business, but anyone that dates me or hangs around me would be of high moral standard enough that they would not have sex with a hooker, (or pay a woman for sex, obviously.) It's degrading and you have to wonder if he was really desperate or was it for the element of dirty thrill?

And I agree with Scout, how emotionally mature MUST a man of that age be if he's trying to date 15 year olds?

15 year olds are children to me, and I'm just 21. A real man wouldn't dare go there with you, Original Poster, and if he's a good guy, then sorry, but he won't feel the same. If he's a shady character, then yeah, maybe he would have a thing for you too.

Where I live, I certainly wouldn't be surprised to see this happening.

ok i am 15 years old and im in love with a 22 year old? is it wrong?

we've known each other for about a 1 1/2 years but im afraid to tell him how i feel. we are really good friends and tell each other everything.

i really want to tell him but im scared. he sometimes shows that he might have feelings for me but im not sure if he really does like me.

my mother approves of it but no sex.

What can i do to make him like me?

I am so confused. ](*,)

It's normal for you to have a crush on an older guy, but it's not normal if he reciprocates such feelings. If he tries anything inappropriate, then THAT'S wrong, and you need to tell your mother, and she needs to inform the police.

Why is a 22 year old hanging around you, anyway? And why is your mother allowing this?

Men daydream about sex with various partners and in various situations.

 

Men add spice to lovemaking by fantasizing about someone other than the current sexual partner.

Guys, is this true? Do you really do this??? (I know that I cannot generalize, some men might do the above, and some might not.)

I really don't want to think that my man is fantasizing about other partners, ESPECIALLY not when we're having sex. How INSULTING.

I think candy is right, I think he's addicted to porn and it's replacing you. It is definitely a serious problem.

You were wrong to nag and say what you said to him, like Hope said, but at the same time, I can also understand why you're frustrated. I had a boyfriend just like that, and it really damages one's ego.

Well I've never been pregnant but I've heard from a lot of people that a lot of them experience PMS like symptoms, which actually turn out to be pregnancy symptoms.

If you are pregnant Scout, congratulations.

I respect your opinion engagedkitty. I thought the same thing myself. But I cant explain it, when you care about someone and someway somehow the age doesnt break the deal for you. I mean I think in my situation its reasonable. But i respect your opinion. And yes we talked about down the line if things were like they were that we would revist things at 18. I guess we just really liked each other and all. I dont know. Its a pretty confusing thing.

 

Your right though, it is hard dealing with the high school stuff when Im beyond it. I have looked for girls my own age, and my ex was, I just was so depressed after my ex left me that I just sort of opened up to anything, and this is what came.

As much as I hate to say something that even appears to go somewhat against my values, I'd slightly agree that in your situation it's not too unreasonable. (You being 21, her being 17. She's probably going to be 18 soon?) I wouldn't say it's the worse crime in the world.. it's not like you're 25 chasing after teens or anything. I'm not trying to make you feel disgusting or anything for liking her. You do seem to like her for the right reasons, not just because you're an older guy trying to manipulate a teen for sex. And like I said, it's not like you're 25 or anything. I just recommend approaching such a situation with caution, that's all.

What are you planning to do? Is she angry at you right now because of the picture?

Also the fact that some guys are quite immature, and when THEY were 16, they couldn't get with hot girls for whatever reason. So now that they're in their mid 20's, older, more experienced and different, they attempt to get with the girls they couldn't get with when they were young.

Case in point: This guy I went to high school with was a geek, and not very attractive. When he was 20, he had changed a lot, and dated and took the virginity of my FIFTEEN year old sister, who was very cute and not the type of girl he ever would have gotten in high school. Now he's 23 or 24 and dating ANOTHER underage girl, go figure. He lives right by me and I've considered flattening his tires for what he did to my sister.

Also, since my sister was 16, she was having sex with a 25 year old guy that she now has two kids by, at age 18. Both kids were conceived when she was underage, he is now going on 27.

I dated a guy who went to school with him; he told me that when that guy was in high school, he had long hair and wasn't what the hot girls would consider as hot. And I've seen some of his exes. Clearly he figured by manipulating an impressionable young girl who he was fully aware had a crush on him since she was 12, he could get a better looking girl, not even caring that she was just a kid and he was a grown man.

Makes me angry just thinking about it. He should have went to jail.

And to the person who said that teens are at their physical peak, oh please, gimme a break. Girls in their 20's are more at their physical peak than a teen. They've developed fully and STILL look young without looking somewhat child-like.

Saying that men in their 20's go for teens because they are at their prime physical peak is ridiculous. They go for teens because they think teens can be easily manipulated into giving them sex or any other kind of play. They think that teens will be "starstruck" by the fact that an older guy is interested in them. A man in his 20's can just as easily be attracted to a 20 year old girl because a 20 year old is at THEIR prime physical peak as opposed to a 15 or 16 year old who may not have finished fully developing.

Some guys are NOT like this though, there ARE some men who would never, ever think to go there with girls so young.

Apparently so P. Dragon, if you guys resort to messing with teen girls when you're grown men in their 20's.

Hannaheh, I'm offended that a 26 year old man tried to get with you and you're only SIXTEEN years old. That just further proves my point that so many people don't give a damn about trying to take advantage of underage minors. And it infuriates me.

I hope you did not do anything with him. You should report him.

Ewwww, ewww, eww. Heheh.

It is a bit normal, I've heard of other little kids doing it. My fiance's sister ate her cousin's poop when she was a toddler, and one of my cousins would play in their poop and eat it too. My own sister would play with her poop. She once had a huge log entwined in her hair.. I don't know how but... ewww, I remember my poor mother ( sticking her in the bathtub, trying to get it out. It's sickening, but surprisingly normal at that stage.

I don't know how you would go about correcting the problem... Ask the doctor would be my advice.

You're not an idiot, but.. I would be very careful when pursuing a minor.

I personally am against it and feel that it's wrong. I'm not going to sugarcoat it; I think it's a law that is WORTH not breaking. If you like her this much, is it possible for you to chill out a while and wait till she's at least 18?

You can see how she 'flips out' over some picture, when you two are not even together. This demonstrates her maturity. She has the maturity of a teenage girl because she is one; what more can you expect? You're a grown man in his 20's.

Tell the girl the truth. That the girl in the picture was interested in you but it was a simple spur of the moment picture. You're not dating so you don't have to explain things to her anyway. It seems so high schoolish. And though I can't force you to conform to my opinions, I'd recommend at least finding a girl 18 or older.