My boyfriend and I are at a stalemate. I'm not sure what to do. I could use some help.
I work full time, and am a full time student as well. With 15 hours of school a week and 40+ hours of work, I find little time for much else.
I'm 18 years old, and he's 22. We've been together 8 months, and have been living together for 3. When I have long days at work, am stressed out and need to unwind, I want to have some fun. I'd like to drink and/or go to a club. He, however, has a different definition of relaxation. He'd rather lay in bed on his computer.
It seems like he never wants to do anything I want to do. He says "You always want to go out" and I say "You always want to sit on your * * *". He's doing this health-conscious thing right now, so he wants to drink even less than he always has.
I know he may already be past this stage of his life, but I still want to run around and have some fun. Every night that we have off together he wants to stay at home and spend "quality time" together. This time usually consists of me sitting and watching him play PS2, vice-versa, or us sitting at opposite ends of the couch on our laptops. I love spending time with him (If I didn't, I wouldn't be with him) but I get bored very easily.
Any time I go out by myself, there's always a resulting argument sometime thereafter, if not immediately after. I can't enjoy myself at all knowing I have to come home to that. He'll say things like "You never want to spend time with me".
Tonight I even asked if we could go to a club. "What do you think is gonna happen?" he said. "Well, we could go out, hang out, dance..." I replied. "We're gonna go, have a mediocre time, spend $30-$50, and come home." was his response.
Now I sit in the living room typing this post. He sits in the bedroom on his computer. I'm really frustrated with this. I'd love to be out having fun. I guess I just don't consider this fun, and he does.
What should I do?
Thanks.