Been dating this girl for about 3 months. She's wonderful.
Im a conservative, she's a liberal
I am content with spending the day doing nothing, she constantly has to be entertained.
Im a science major, she's into liberal arts
Im a man and...well...she's a feminist!
It's a great relationship and I truly value the time we spend together, even given that we are so different from one another (we never argue !)
She seems to be getting a little "clingy" the past few weeks. We went from speaking every night on the phone for about an hour (she lives couple hours away until we go back to school in a couple weeks) to her calling me at 8am in the morning (from work), twice at lunch, one time between lunch and 5am, after work, and then 2 hours at night.
She has told me she has fears of being too dependent on someone to be happy (she has had quite a bad run of luck in the past with guys) in which case I tried to encourage her to be the strong independent woman that she so often aspires to be. She was also (delightfully...i think) surprised when I insisted that she go out with her friends (sans myself, because I was tired from moving apartments) even though "other guys were going to be there" (i sensed she was a little disappointed when I said I didn't want to go, almost as if I was inferring she couldn't go because I wasnt). I try to encourage her to do fun activities outside just me and her all the time, but she seems to be using "seeing me" as an excuse to blow everyone else off (as if she doesn't see me enough .
I know the quick answer is stop answering phone calls ALL of the time, maybe just limit it to 2-3 a day MAX. Already tried. If I do this my phone constantly rings off of the hook, and I end up either having to turn it on silent, vibrate, or off completely (and my job requires that I be reachable on the phone)
Any solutions to try and remedy the situation? I love spending time with this girl and really do care about her a great deal, but I feel that the more we hang out and the longer the duration, the higher the probabiltiy that we will end up fighting or get bored with each other. I don't think it's healthy to spend ALL of your time with your S/O.
Thoughts? Thanks y'all!