This is the first time I write on this website or any other.
I started dating this guy from work 18 months ago. He moved to Europe from the UK to be closer to me. (It was an internal move in the company where he got a nice promotion).
He was so kind in the beginning but you know the strory:
He gets jealous and spends the whole night verbally abusing you, sends cruel emails and sms which disturb me emotionally.
He says it is my fault because he does not like being ignored when he writes to me.
When I withdraw, he gets worse and threatens to lift the anchor. When I say it is a good idea, he says we will then become enemies.
And he really means it. He is in a superior position from me and has made friends in the right places at work. Whereas I started working again after 11 years of being a house-wife, leaving my nursing career.
I cannot lose my job! But I cannot work with this sort of harassement.
I am totally tired and yet my job is very demanding and I also have 4 children to look after when I go home.
My family is all in the States and I live in Europe so I have no family around.
I worked hard to complete a business degree and start again after a divorce.
Hence I had no time to make friends. After work, I go home to my children.
I am proud of all I have achieved but this guy makes me feel like a bad person. My question: HOW DO YOU BREAK UP WITH A COLLEAGUE WITHOUT HAVING HIM DESTROY YOUR CAREER?
