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I like it completely shaved and so does my husband. I must say, I think there is less odor (not trying to be gross) especially in the summer! I shave it every two or three days to keep it up and just use the same shave gel I use on my legs and a Venus razor. I think it is addictive and increases my sexual pleasure. We call what my husband does "manscaping" He just trims it down enough that it is not bushy, but not {Removed by Mod}. I don't like his shaved, it {Removed by Mod} me.

Thank you to all of you for your advice. I am currently seeking counseling and still have to give all of this more thought before I make any moves. I did go to my obgyn and have myself tested and I did use protection and everything came back clear. I appreciate all your concern and great thoughts on this thread. I did want to clear a few things up. First, when I started this thread I said I had had an affair, it was actually only two occasions that I met this other man. I am not trying to justify my actions are make it better, just be clear in what happened. I personally think it is just as wrong once as it is to have an ongoing relationship. The second thing is, nobody really answered my question or gave me advice other than to seek counseling. I know what I did was wrong, I ended it and gave up all contact with this other man. My problem is that I still think about him, and I need to know what to do to get him out of my head.

In answer to the above questions; loved? absolutely respected? yes cared for? not always, but when I need him (like when I had c sections) yes sexually satisfied? very Thanks for all your insight. I am going to work on this in my head before I do anything else. I already got rid of the other guy and am working on my marriage. I do love him.

Okay, here goes. I feel like my husband is my soul mate. I met him when I was a senior in high school and quite honestly there has never been anyone else for me. We have had a lot of fun and great times together and really no terrible bumps in our relationship. We have three beautiful children and he is an awesome father. The biggest problem is the amount of responsibility I am shouldering. I am a stay at home mom, I do all the housework, shopping (food and clothing) pay the bills, cook, laundry. All the things most stay at home moms do. I am also responsible for %90 of the child care. He helps me give them a bath and put them to bed sometimes, but maybe 50% of the time. He makes me feel like his job is so important that I can't rely on him if I need someone to watch the kids while I do something (like get my hair cut) He is in sales and his schedule is fairly unpredictable. He also doesn't do things when I ask him to. (IE we have been in our house for 7 weeks and his clothes are still in boxes.) He is very busy and we also have side business that takes a lot of time. He was really escaping when we were living with my parents. I have talked to him a lot about this and it is getting a lot better lately. The other problem is that I gained a lot of weight when I was pregnant with our 3rd baby (80 lbs) It took me 2 years to lose it but now I am back down to 115. It just seemed like he didn't care and didn't appreciate it and here I have this other man telling me how amazing I look and how beautiful I am. I know I should appreciate that he really didn't care, but I worked hard to get back and I want him to recognize that. He is doing a lot better in that category too, now that I am being pushy and making him realize how he has been treating me. My problem is I am too nice about things. I should tell him that it really bothers me when he leaves at 7 o clock in the evening and doesn't get back until 10 because he is working on our second business. I need to tell him to take time for me and not spend so much time with our friends. But I don't because I want him to want to be with me. I don't want to have to tell him. That is as much as I can share in one siting.

I am really not trying to hide behind my girls. I made a terrible mistake, now I want to make the best decisions possible given my bad mistake in the past. People make mistakes all the time and have to live with them. I am willing to do that, I just want to do what will be best for everyone involved now. I KNOW I was selfish, I KNOW I screwed up, I just don't know where to go from here. I don't have any excuses on why I cheated. I really liked this guy, we were put together in a professional setting and he just made me feel so good that day. My husband and I had been having a hard time, we had been living with my parents for 10 months waiting on a house to be built, during that time my dad was diagnosed with cancer and my mom suffered depression. My husband dealt with it all by escaping through work and a side business that we have as much as possible. I tried to talk to him, but he wasn't hearing me. I just felt emotionally neglected. The sex has always been really good for us, and that never suffered. I just don't think that feeling neglected is a reason for acting like I did. This other guy told me I was beautiful, he listened to what I was interested in, he really liked me for me and it just seemed like so long since someone has seen me. I am a stay at home mom and we moved away from all of our friends, I fell into a trap of making myself feel good. My husband has since come back to me in a sense. We are in our own home, my dad is in remission and things are better. I just don't know how to deal with my terrible mistake.

Oh man, I am feeling bad. I don't have any excuses. It was a completely selfish decision. I wanted to be with the other man. He was exciting, new and made me feel good about myself. I know I made a terrible mistake, I just want to fix it. I do love my husband very much. I know it is partially selfish to not tell him, but I also don't want to hurt him like that. I know you are thinking I should have thought of that before I did it, I agree. But now, after all the decisions I have made, where do I go from here? Let me remind you that I also have 3 little girls who love mommy and daddy very much.

Just to clarify, I got married at 21 right out of college, but I had been dating my now husband since I was 17 and had never had sex with anyone else before him. My main problem is the thoughts I keep having about this other man. Should I tell my husband? How do I get this other man out of my head now that he is out of my life?

I would first like to apologize for this being my first post. I have been struggling with this situation with no one to talk to and I stumbled accross this web site and I just need some advice. I am 30 years old and a stay at home mom of three wonderful girls. I have been married for 9 years and have been with my husbland for 4 years before that. I recently met another man who is also married that I was incredibly attracted to. He called me, emailed me and I ended up having sex with him. I had never been with anyone other than my husband before. I have never even considered cheating, I was just so tempted and I did it. This lasted about a month and I have since told the other man I can't see him ever again, but I want to. I am a stong Christian, but have felt far from God since this all began. I love my husband very much and I don't want this to affect our relationship. We were going through a very stressful time, he had recently changed jobs and we moved into a house that needed a lot done to it and I was the one doing it. I know that doesn't justify my actions, I just can't imagine what came over me. I don't know how to get back to normal b/c this other man has invaded my thoughts and feelings. I know I screwed up. Advice please!!!