Hello all...
I am 31, male, and a long time lurker who decided to sign up and ask for advice...
I've only REALLY liked 4 women in the last 15 years. A couple months ago, I really started having feelings for a coworker (the 4th woman in the last 15 years) that I've known for 7 months. We'd been getting along great, and it seemed like she was communicating all the non-verbal signs that she was interested. We went out alone as friends (I think) a little over six weeks ago and had a great time. I went to lunch with her about three weeks ago, and confessed I had a huge crush on her.
Last week, I asked her out, but didn't get an commital-type answer, so a couple days later, I followed up with her, but sensed that she wasn't jumping at the chance to go out w/me. I asked her if she wanted me to back off from pursuing her. She said yes, because someone in another city who she had had interest in was still in the picture, and that there are other guys in other cities pursuing her. She was confessing to me that her love life is a little too hectic right now.
I got the sense from her that she is going to have to end up letting down the other people pursuing her, because the one she is interested in is still in the picture. She had said to me in the past that the thing she had with that guy in another city is over, or at least she was getting over it. At other times, she suggested to me she knows it won't work out with that guy in the end anyway.
This week, she hasn't been as friendly with me at all, leaving without saying goodbye to me (a normal occurrence) and perhaps avoiding me altogether even though she only works about 10 feet away from me.
Sorry for the long lead up, but here are my questions...
1) Did I make a mistake confessing my feelings and asking her out? (because it stings a little to have her possibly avoiding me)
2) Should I give up on this girl? If not, then how should I approach pursuing her?
