thebiggestmistake

Thank you. I understand what I need to do.

If you love your boyfriend or may potentially love him, don't throw it away because of a curiosity.

I don't want to shift the burden to him. I just feel like he has the right to know that I am not a perfect as he thinks. There is no excuse for my actions. I am confused on why it happened, because I have never even thought about cheating. I would rather have the burden on me and never cause him pain. His happiness is all that matters. But is it condsidered false happiness if I don't tell him?

Thank you for your advice, DN. Why do you think it would be better to not tell him?

I have been married for one and half years. My husband and I have been together for almost four years. Four months ago my husband went to Iraq. I had some neighbors at my house about three months later, girls and guys. We had alcohol there and when I woke up the next morning I remember having a bad dream about having sex with one of the guys. The next day the guy in my dream came over and told me it wasn't a dream. I am so disgusted with myself. I love my husband more than anything and we never keep secrets from one another. The last thing I want to do is hurt him, but I don't want to put my burden on him. I know what I did was completely foolish. My husband gets to come home for rest and relaxation from Iraq in June. His tour isn't over until next March though. Should I tell him in June or March? Or should I not tell him? Please give me thoughtful advice. I would really appreciate your opinions.