Okay hello, i'm new!
Now here's my story and am looking for some 'thoughts' on this.
There is this guy that I became friends with threw my bestfriend's church a few years ago...When i would go visit her church we'd hang out and talk, but mostly talked on the phone/internet....Then we lost contact for a littl while, and last year (summer of '05) we got back 'in contact'.[i'm not sure why we stopped talking, he kinda just disappeared]
Well, we got back in contact during Summer and had the usual conversations about random crap, but we talked (for some reason) about sex and sexuality alot more . For example, he has a girlfriend and he'd constantly tease/joke about their 'sex life'. I know it's usual for guys [even girls] to joke about their sex life to friends, but he would bring it up everytime we talked online/on phone. It was like he was trying to get a response of some sort... Then that stopped and we started talking about the 'old church crew'.
I brought up how one guy stopped going because was having some problems and told him i heard he was gay. [but wasnt sure]. Then this church friend said 'Really? i saw him at the mall yesterday with some guys; But I didn't get the feeling he was'... Then in another conversation we started talking about dating and he was so 'defensive' about male/male dating . So, i'd tease him about it, just to get him more antsy..Maybe i shouldn't have but it was kinda fun. He also kept bringing up stories dealing with gay guys, like about his 'trip' to a gay bar?
So while talking since summer, We kept talking about 'meeting up' again but it never happened, It was like he wanted it to but we never did....I dont know why.
After much talking, in January i 'came out' to him.. I told him i was gay, and his response, 'Yeah, I kinda knew'. I asked him how and i asked if it had anything to do with my teasing [making him antsy] and he said something along the lines of, 'Not Really, i knew before then'. Then he followed it up with 'I'm going to tell you something and you can not tell anyone else - I'm attracted to guys too'. When he said that, I was kinda surprised/confused. So, we started talking about the whole gay thing in general, and it was pretty nice to have someone who knows what i've been having dealing with also..But he seemed upset because he still is dating the same girl for awhile and she has no idea. So, i just told him that he should talk with her, and he agreed. (i dont know if he did)
Moving on...After this conversation and my 'coming out' and him seemingly undertstanding; In our next conversation [which was phone] he started teasing me about it, and he claimed he never said anything about him being attracted to other guys [but he infact did, i remember hearing it with my ears]....I just don't get the total 180...I was thinking maybe he was fishing for information on my part, but why would he tell me he was attracted to other guys AFTER i told him? I'm kinda confused...any ideas?
