curious81

I will most definitely let you'll know what happens

I am going to talk to him this weekend and get things clarified.. Im not going to tell him anything over the phone or via email.. I appreciate everyone giving their advice. I understand that he is the only one that can tell me what he truly meant. But i wanted to hear what other people thought about this, bc i wanted to make sure i wasnt making a big deal out of nothing....

When he comes to visit me, usually all the people we go visit are people from his college. This girl is from his college, i dont know what amount of time they went out or anything.. Because i never asked about his relationship with her. But he wouldnt see her alot, bc she lives in the same city that i do. She doesnt live where he is... And then he said well i dont think she cares about me anymore, bc she is sleeping with these other guys.. Which doesnt mean anything... Just bc she is sleeping with other people doesnt mean she doesnt have feelings for him. I just dont think hanging out with him and his friends, her included is anything anyone would want to do, am i right or wrong for thinking this?

**guys** would you be offended if your g/f asked you about this? If she told you nothing was wrong.. but maybe a week later she said it was bothering her...

I had not talked to him much since he left. He asked me if i was mad at him. And i told him ive been sad. And he sent me this stupid picture to my phone to try and cheer me up. and he then he sent one that said oh yeah i love you... But seeing what everyone is writing i guess for me to feel better, i need to bring it up when i see him this weekend..

Ive been sad since Saturday night, which was when this happened... And i cant help but wonder why 1) he told her sorry for the way things turned out 2) telling me she was going to be there 5 min before we got there.. i dont want to hang around with his frickin ex.. im not being immature, but why would anyone want to hang out with there B/f or G/f's ex?

**Guys** why would he be posting about a past hook up on a place i could see it? Should i even care since it was years ago?

Okay, So why did he tell her he was sorry for the way things turned out? i dont understand that. And more importantly why did he tell me that?

I almost couldnt believe it was happening. i had to deal with being around her for his friends funeral. I understand that. But for him to say she is going to be the same place we are going 5 min before we get there, pissed me off.. And it just made me sick when he was talking to her. He didnt talk to her much, but he did.. and when he said he was sorry to her for the way things turned out. i didnt think much about it when he said it, but when i thought about it the next day.. its a classic sign of having feelings for that person.. and the kicker to all of this, is i met him when he was with her, and he said thing with her were already out the door... im suppose to go see him this weekend, and i am going to bring it up... Because why are you going to apologize for a relationship ending unless you care about that person? that would be the only reason i would EVER say that to an ex... And about his friend, he sent her a message that said yeah i made out with you once..haha... this girl was someone he knew in college.. its not something recent but why put that comment where i can see it?

would you be offended from that comment from the college friend?

i felt like it was disrespectful... it made me sick to sit there and act like nothing...

I dont know what to ask him about his Ex? if he told her sorry for the way things turned out, what is that suppose to mean? he isnt the greatest person to bring up anything.. he gets so defensive about stuff...

Okay.. So here it goes... Ive been in an LDR for about a year and a half... My b/f comes to visit me this past weekend.. And on the way to his friends house, maybe 5 minutes away he tells me his ex is going to be there... .. So then he goes on to tell me that two months ago while he was down here for a friends funeral he told her he was sorry for the way things turned out? * * *?... what is that suppose to mean... So i thought i would be alright.. But we got to his friends house, and we walked inside he gave her a hug.. and after about ten minutes i was ready to leave.. didnt feel like drinking... nothing... so then i see then i see this message on his myspace page telling a college buddy,, yeah i made out with you once..haha... Guys, would you put this kind of * * * * somewhere that you girl could see this?... Am i overreacting?... so needless to say, ive been a sad girl the last couple of days... What do you think about the things that have happened?... Am i wrong for feeling sad and hurt?.. I need some advice... So guys especially tell me if you would do this to someone you care about and love so much... thanks.. i appreciate any advice....

I would like some advice from people who are also in LDR's... Lemme give you some background info. I met my b/f in July 04', he was in his last semester at a school in the city i live in.. so we were in the same city from Aug 04' til Dec. 04' then he moved back home... He lives 4 hours way.. Since then we see each other maybe twice a month.. Well i was always going to see him, so finally i told him that he needed to start coming to see me.. and he doesnt like the city i live in.. So he said for every 2 times (one time he pays) you come visit me i will go visit you.. Well that was in Aug 05' and from then til Dec 05' he came to see me twice.. So here we are going into another year, he has only come to see me once. I have been there 3 times, and i have another 3 times planned from now until April. So he started talking about planning to go see some friends in Denver and California on two different trips.. I try not to nag him and ask him when are you coming to see me all the time.. So when he started talking about this trips, i became very frustrated and hurt.. I feel like im not important to him.. Im suppose to go see him this weekend and i think im going to tell him how i have been feeling. I am not going to go there after my april trip until he comes to see me. I have made an attempt to go there and visit with his family. I just dont feel like he is making an effort to get to know my family. I love my parents with all my heart, i dont know what i would do without them. Im not sure what to tell him or how to tell him. I feel like i have a right to be upset about this, because its getting old. And when ive mentioned anything about this, he was like i told you LDR's are hard. I never said they were easy. I am putting in alot of effort into this relationship. I am a full time student that doesnt work. and im always the one traveling to see him.. I need some advice from someone. Im not sure how to approach this with him, given the history of our conversations about visiting.. So i look forward to hearing what you'll have to say. Thanks!

i forgot to mention the fact, that he also mentioned the fact that other girls hes been with have smelled like "strawberries" and "apples"... ... hes like so i know it can be done.. i just dont know what is involved with taking care of a vagina. i am a clean person.. i dont eat alot of garlic.. i shower 2 a day... im gonna try the pineapple and cranberry juice, just to see if it works... and im not trying to punish him, i want him to know that he went about it in such a brutal way, without taking into consideration my feelings.. i want him to take a step back and see... i didnt know that a vagina was suppose to smell like fresh flowers all the time... in any case, im giving myself a day to get over it, and talk soon so i dont put anymore strain on the relationship...