Mia555

Everyone has their own definition of love. I know my boyfriend is my true love because I have been in many relationships, and I so strongly see this one in my future. I want to spend the rest of my life with this person. About the other guy- I don't see him in my future at all! It's just a strong physical attraction, nothing emotional. so you see? i KNOW i will never cheat on my boyfriend.... but i guess the question that im trying to ask is--- is it still ok to have a strong physical attraction to someone else?

you're kidding right? ur actually sayin a valid option for me would be to just dump my true love JUST like that? all those memories down the drain? all that wasted love? ...thanks for helpin the situation.

My Boyfriend and I have been together for about a year, and we have been and still are madly in love. We are always together and care for eachother like crazy. But… Recently, a new guy came to school who really caught my interest and I am developing and mad obsession with him. I don’t know why it began but I absolutely hate myself for it. I dress up in the morning for him, go to wherever I think he is, and pretty much STALK HIM within the school! I even fantasize about him and everything. And the worst part is... it is a 2-way attraction. we flirt. It is getting out of hand and I tell myself, “don’t worry… let yourself be attracted. It’s fun… and you are not stupid enough to CHEAT on your boyfriend.” But I am afraid that one day I will lose self-control, because I am a VERY impulsive person. But I can’t help it--- this whole crush is so exciting… and I am so attracted! I am still extremely attracted to my boyfriend, but with this new guy- it is a FRESH attraction that sends shivers down my body when I see him. But it is not worth ruining my relationship- and I need major help. How can I stop being attracted to this guy? How can I control my actions such as following him, staying up really late talking to him online, thinking/fantasizing about him??? HOW CAN I CONTROL MY DESIRE TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM!? I already know that I cannot continue these actions because what I have now with my man is incredible… but even with that thought imbedded into my mind, it is not enough to stop this little obsession because it is just so exciting. I DO NOT WANT TO BE THE CHEATING TYPE!!!! I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND!!! PS: tell me if its ok for me to stick with my attraction to him, but just draw the line at cheating and control myself not to cross that line. because i really cannot stay away from this guy... my school is tiny. HELP PLEASE -M