I have got married 6 months ago, after living 1 year with him. After we got married, the relationship has changed, perhaps too much routine. I did not know something was going so wrong until he expressed his unhappyness, he feels he has lost his freedom and did not like the routine we are... in one of the last conversations he suggest to be open-minded... and be able to accept extra marital relations..
I was shocked because I am from a very conservative background and before we never had the idea of being with someone else. He claims he has lost his freedom and even he has not been with someone yet he would like to feel free to meet new women and perhaps eventually have casual sex without the fear that this would end our relationship or that he does not love me... he does not want to get divorce because he says he still love me and want to be with me and being my husband, he thinks our relationship will be better if both of us feel that freedom again, he will tolerate if I decided to have sex with someone different as long we are sure I/he will be back to him/me and we continue together.
I have tried to understand him but I am too conservative, I am not sure if he is facing a shocked of his new condition as a husband, or if the relationship is lost, or perhaps is a fear that men suffer sometimes.
I would like to know some opinions and experiences similar to this... as I am very confussed, I do not want to leave him but I feel I can not accept those new conditions... I would like to help him to recover his freedom and show him that being married is not living in a prison, but also that I do believe in fidelity... Thanks
