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I keep thinking whether things would have been different if I had done something differently. For example, I made myself too available. I would immediately answer his texts or calls. Maybe that made him back off? Even though he was the one who encouraged me to talk to him by saying when we started talking that he liked that I showed interest. I tried to match the energy and interest he had when we started talking to each other. But, when we last talked he said that he felt pressure and wanted us to talk and see each other even less. I just feel confused by how inconsistent his behaviour was. And the problem is he didn't offer me some clarity in order to know which parts of me I can improve.

Thank you very much for your time! I would like to ask something else. Why did he want to keep in touch with me even though he kept treating me like I'm not a priority and he seemed less interested in me compared to when we started talking to each other? I mean why would someone want that?

I think I understand what you are saying! I haven't thought about volunteering to be honest! I might give it a try! I think I understand what my mistake was. I got swept up by all that ideal future that he presented to me. I felt that he would be able to fill that emotional void I feel because of loneliness. This made me ignore all the red flags.

You believe that it is better to focus on myself and making new friends first so that next time I meet someone I won't be affected by feelings of loneliness into making a wrong choice?

He was indeed impulsive with every aspect of his life. Each week he would be obsessed with something and it would take all his energy and attention. I indeed got carried away by what he said. The truth is I've moved to a new city recently and I am feeling really lonely since I haven't yet been able to make new friends.

Thank you for your reply! I'll keep that in mind! It's just that he was so excited and seemed so sincere when telling those words to me that I was sure he meant each one of them.

The thing is he never got out of his way to do something together with me. Even on the phone, after the first week, we would talk whenever he had time and mostly about topics of his life that bothered him. He must have been infatuated with the idea of a relationship yeah, but I don't understand how he can lose interest so easily? I mean he was infatuated for 3 days, went on our first date, he was infatuated for 4 more days, and after that gradually started losing interest.

Thank you for your reply! He looked so sincere and so excited at the start that I was confused when he stopped showing interest. I thought that maybe he is seeing other people (which is okay since we weren't exclusive), but if that's the case why he wanted us not to see other people if he was planning to go out with others?

I've been dating a guy I met on dating apps for about 3 weeks. During the first week he would tell me compliments like how beautiful I am, how lucky he is to have met me, making future plans, making plans to meet his parents, insisting that we should go on vacation during the summer, texting consistently and phone calling frequently. All these before our first date. He also set some boundaries like we won't be talking, or going out with other people. During our first date he said that after a month it would be a good time to start a relationship with each other. All these happened consistently during the first week (compliments, texting and calling). After the first week ended he started being inconsistent about his texting, cutting conversations abruptly, replying late or never replying. When I confronted him about that he didn't want to discuss it, and after pressuring him he said that that's his communication style. He would also make simple promises and never keep them. He stopped making compliments and future talking. He would prioritize everything else (friends, activities, hobbies) and if and when he had time we would talk with each other. The worst thing happened when we planned a date and he got asleep and never came to the date. That's when I decided I had enough and told him to break up. He said that he is sad and that he wanted us to stay together, but he didn't seem sad at all. The problem is I'm thinking about the first week and what could have been and that makes me depressed and sad to the point that I want to text him... It was my first attempt to date someone. I would like some advice on how to cope with my feelings. It would be nice if you could offer examples of similar situations you've been in and how you got over them. Thank you in advance.