James1881

Absolutely professional relationship with her now. No more feelings or fwb talk. Totally focused on my son. I think your last paragraph is absolutely correct. I'm sure she wants to get some twisted satisfaction from hurting me. I completely loved this one, she was my one, and our relationship was amazing, sex was out of this world (we both agree with all those statments) it turned quickly for no real reason. She destroyed me completely, but I fear she isn't done yet. Or she is angry and kinda wants to punish me till she is ready to try again. I'm so bloody confused.

Thank. Thank you for this advice. I'm going to be strong and not let her get the better of me. I have started weight training again, it helps keep my focus. Friends and family have been great. I guess I reached out to strangers because you don't know us and it makes the advice less bias. Your words have been reassuring.

I made a few mistakes 4 years ago, an ex was trying to rule my life, by making demands and contacting me too much. (I have a child with her too, so I wasn't able to just block her) These problems came back to haunt her and it was too much to deal with. I tried to sort the problems but we where unable to agree. I have my own place now. It all happened very quickly. Since I have my own place was when she started making more contact with me. My friends think she is leading me on, but not wanting to let me go or want me enough to stay with me. I feel powerless, like she has all the cards.

Ok, thankyou for your words. I'll take this on board. We are going through the courts to make the arrangement with our son legally binding.

We have completely resolved everything regarding our son. We have 50/50 and he will be with me for the next 3 days. We are united as far as our son is concerned. My issues are how she is being with me. Is she leading me on? Is she trying to make me jealous because she still has feelings or because she wants to hurt me? Does she want me to fight for her or just leave her alone. Like I say she is the one now making contact, inviting me round. I'm just very confused in what I should do.

Has she has any serious relationships? How did you guys hook up? This could give you alot of insights into how she operates as a partner.

I'm in need of some advice. My ex is confusing me with how we broke up and how we are now. About 6 weeks ago my ex through me out. It was a shock but the relationship was having difficulties. We had 4 weeks of silence between us, any contact we did have was angry and argumentative. She also stopped me from having any contact with me son during this time. Then about 2 weeks ago we started talking, deep and long messages about how I hurt her, and how she was hurting me. We spoke for hours that one night. The next day I was able to see my son. From then we have spoken alot more and actually seen each other a few times. This last week things have changed. She finds alot of reasons to message me, and we talk most of the day. She keeps saying there is no us and she doesn't want a relationship with me. She tells me she doesn't love me but she also doesn't hate me. It's worth noting that I'm not asking her to start again with me, but I have told her I'm still in love with her. The last 48 hours we have been discussing sleeping with each other. She comes up with alot of excuses as to why we shouldn't but never actually says no we won't do it. In fact she has said multiple times she wants too, it would be comfortable but because I have feeling it best we don't. Tonight she invited me to stay for tea with my son. He had already eaten hours before I got there, but she cooked for me, and she ate tea with me at the table making polite conversation. She also dropping into conversation that she is going out, and hopefully she could meet a sugar daddy, or a toy boy. She knew how this would make me feel. But i sort of brushed it off. She then said well you might meet someone its going to happen sooner or later. I cannot say she is hot and cold, im really not sure what i should be thjnking or doing right now. I always let her message first. And althought she isnt giving me hope, her actions are not clearly matching her words. I would love to hear what people think is going on. Thank you James