RicBoy1

I didn't like the way I left things with her when I texted her a week after she left me. I had sent some msgs trying to convince her to be fwb again which she was annoyed. Today was her birthday. I texted her wishing her happy birthday and a good day and I apologised for those stupid msgs last week and told her this is me trying to leave things in good terms with her and that I accept the break up. she replied thanks no hard feelings. I wanted to clean the slate a bit and not having those sex msgs begging be her last memory of me. Im staying in no contact now indefinitely (Its been 2,5 weeks since the break up). If she never reaches out again, then she won't hear from me anymore

I get her point of view, she feels like im not the one for her and that she will never have feelings for me and she doesn't want to waste her time meeting me twice every week cooking food and whatnot when she could be out there trying to find someone she will have feelings.. and FWB for her is more like meeting once in a while etc not twice a week on a schedule

thank you, you are right, she would know how desperate I would be if I would reach out in 2 or 3 months. Begging to get back to a situationship where we didn't even go outside together, yakkk

I think I'll just do my best to move on in silence. If she reaches out great, if not so be it. I would hate to break 2 or 3 months no contact and she tells me something like tanks but no thanks and set me back to day 1

I doubt she will reach out in the future, I wont break no contact. When she said she has no feelings for me clearly im not the guy for her future. Any point to reach out in 2 or 3 months and try to rekindle at least fwb? or no point to get rejected again, give her a ego boost and put my face down?

Tomorrow is her birthday, I think I wont say anything. Im in no contact now for 9 days, and 2 weeks broken up. I tried to text her 1 week after she ended things, but she said she had made her decision and it wont work out slow or fast and things went too fast too serious and she dont want that. When I asked what she wants, she said nothing from you. I dont get it why this nasty response. then I asked if we could have sex casually here and there and she said no, its not gonna work out with me anymore and she said she regrets to have replied to my msgs. Probably was getting annoyed I was trying to revert her decision. We haven't spoken since

I think she is a dismissive avoidant and she felt smothered. she told me many times she needs her own time and space and now makes sense she never had a single relationship in her adult life. She probably saw me very invested towards the end texting calling inviting wanting to see her and she probably felt it was way to much drama for something that was suppose to be casual

Thank you for your reply. I could have done just FWB no problem but she led me on. Maybe she even thought she wanted more. She would send me selfies and say thing im your happy woman. she would say I want to take it slow and one day you can sleep over and we will hang out outside, just give me time. One time we went for dinner at her best friend house. We texted daily for 3 months, mostly initiated by me but she also did. She told me all her friends knew about me including her sisters and parents. so I started to act like her boyfriend in a way. She said we were exclusive. Then I noticed last 2 weeks, she didn't initiate any texts but we still kept meeting once or twice a week. Really weirs situation.

I think this is probably spot on I still feel I over pursued her with texts and plan meetings and never gave her the chance to chase me, miss me and initiate 50% of texts and plans too. I felt I was always up her a-ss and smothered her. Had I taken things slower I could at least keep it as fwb or even more

I dont think she left me because I had feelings. She told her mother father sisters about me. I think were dating at least more than fwb. But she started saying she had told her mother she doesn't know yet what she wanted from this from me. Then she told me she didn't have feelings for me but liked my company and sex and if she ever arrived to the conclusion im not the guy for her future, then she couldn't do this FWB with me forever and that she was starting to feel bad watching me coming over to her place twice a week knowing that I was hoping one day things would be come more serious. Really hard to understand what was going on here.

Her past is her future.

No matter how many guys she will have, going to be the same story all over again and again. I never really told her I wanted a relationship but maybe she sensed by my behavor. I started texting too much daily and call here and there and I think it became too much for her. We met twice a week for 3 months, with her cooking dinner, cuddling Netflix for hours and sex. I guess it all became too much for her. She would text me selfies saying things like "im your happy woman" and often she said we were dating ..hard situation

Why everyone thinks she wont reach out?

I was seeing a girl for 3 months, she is 35 and never had a single serious relationship just fwb type of relationships and short ones. She pointed out all guys that fell for her eventually she ghosted them. I got involved with her, no sleep overs, no hanging outside, just Netflix, dinner and sex. She started to warm up and eventually she said we were more than fwb, more like dating. Few weeks ago, she said she was having doubts what she wanted from this, that she doesn't have feelings, just liked the sex and my company and if she ever come to the conclusion im not the guy for her future, that she couldn't be fwb forever with me. A week later, she said she feels I want more from this than her and this is starting to be a problem because she is very busy and seeing me twice a week is taking too much of her time. A week ago, Sunday, she called to end things. I broke no contact a week later saying Id be willing to take it slow and she replied it's not gonna work out slow or not slow and that things went too fast too serious and the doesn't want that and no more fwb with me, it wont work out. What now? No contact until she reaches out?