LindaBarrett1976
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Kristen, Thank you soooo much for understanding. You know exactly what I've been feeling. My ex wants to see each other on a regular basis now. But I think he's hiding some skeletons in his closet too. He keeps talking about his ex girlfriend Aaron. They were together for the past 3 years and have been separated for 4 months. He said he was in Love w/ me and then her. She wants no relationship w/ him. And, I'm starting to find out why. He seems way to inmature. For 31 years old, he's got some problems. I found out he's constantly bringing girls around his 8 year-old daughter and showing no responsibility for her. His mom and grandma watch the girl constantly. He's acting much like a player and needs to grow up. Thank God, I didn't risk my marriage over this Jerk! Thankfully, my husband seems much more interested in me and in us. Hopefully, now... we can move forward in our relationship! Thanks everyone for your replies!!
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Kristen, Thank you so much for your reply. You are describing everything that my ex and I feel. Thursday night we ended up kissing, and Sunday we made Love. These feelings are unbelievable. And yes, I told my husband what has happened. He is very understanding and is willing to do whatever it takes to get us back together. But, I don't know if I want that or not. Things seem so great w/ my ex and I. I just wish I knew which way to go. I do still love my ex and he told me he's falling for me all over again. I wish I hadn't called him in the first place. But, these emotions are toooo great. My ex told me that since I was his first he feels a bond b/w us. I can't say that, he was my second, but I do feel the same as I did 10 years ago. This is crazy, to still be in love w/ my high school sweetheart after all these years!
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Like that's my real name? Come on people!!!!! Get w/ the program.
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This am, I called my husband at work to chit chat. He told me that the last few nights he's been having a hard time sleeping because I've been acting rather distant and he knows I've been thinking about my ex. I guess I can just go along w/ the situation. I haven't told him I went out w/ the ex the other night. I know he'd be hurt, even though nothing happens. But, I can't stop thinking about my ex. I won't even go near my husband, closeness and intimacy, because I'm longing for my ex.
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Why ruin a marriage through divorce if the affair doesn't work out? I just can't see getting a divorce first. If the affair doesn't work all is lost. I guess I want my cake and to eat it too.
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I cannot afford to leave. Everything we have is in both our names. I'm currently working registry at a hospital and only work 8 hours every 6 months, and am in school. I stay home w/ the kids all day. One time about 5 months ago, after going out w/ my friends, I mentioned I was not happy and divorce to my husband. He said we'd lose everything. I know he'd put up w/ it. I hate to say it. If I had an affair, and it didn't work. I think my hubby would rather have it that way. When we first got together, I was already seeing someone else -no comittment though. Once me and my hubby were dating, I cheated on him w/ the guy I had no comittment to. My hubby took me back and we got married several months later.
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You're right about my plan in some aspects. But w/out telling my husband, how else can I see if it will work w/ my ex? I'd have to say I am still in Love w/ my ex. The feelings have never changed. Today, I asked my ex why we didn't talk about this 6 years ago, before I married and had kids. Now, I'm 29 and still in love w/ the guy I was with from 14-18, the same guy who I've compared all my other relationships to and he wants me back. I couldn't believe when he said to me, "Wouldn't it be crazy if we got back together after 10 years" and "You were the only girl I had ever been in love w/". That really makes me wonder!
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He would be at work. I'm trying to base my envolvement w/ my ex on a friendly basis. Even though we're interested in each other sexually, we would have to wait. Wait and see how things go w/ us and w/ the kids. I n all honesty, if everything over 2-3 months goes along smoothly, maybe I'd consider having sex at that point. If we do and the feelings are still there, then I'd tell my husband what's been happening all along.
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Karma, do you believe in it?
LindaBarrett1976 replied to Blayzed4Life's topic in Emotions and Feelings
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Well, this is the how to introduce them part. And, over time I'll have to see what happens. If we act as friends, maybe the relationship w/ the kids can evolve slowly.
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O.K., I'm trying to be honest w/ myself. I can't stop thinking about my ex. I still have the same feelings I had for him 10 years ago. On and off over the past ten years, I have tracked him down... We would talk but the fact he had a kid and a on again off again girl friend made me apprehensive about going back to him. Now, she's out of the pic. But, I'm married w/ kids. God, I really screwed up.
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This is soooo strange. I did call my ex back tonight. We talked and it seemed like no time has past. Like I said before, we seem to have connected. I've sort of opened up a little to my husband. I know he has his suspicouns. I honestly think he knows I was out w/ my ex last night, he just won't come out and say so. I was my first for my ex. He said he still feels a bond to me. He is the only man out of 7 all together that ever made me reach orgasm w/ out some stimulation from myself. My ex called me a freak because we tried everything sexually speaking. My hubby on the other hand is rather tame. I'm rather sick of being the perfect little house wife to my husband. There is no real relationship anymore. It's like we are just going through the motions... he knows it and I know it. I just don't want to make a jump unless it's a sure thing. Why risk the family. My hubby knows somethings up. He knows it's related to my ex. I just told him I didn't want to get into it right now. I told my ex we'll just see each other and see what happens. With 4 young kids, I don't know if my ex could handle it. My hubby barely can and they're biologically his. So, I'd like my ex to eventually meet the kids later on if we form some sort of a relationship and see how he does with them. Maybe an accidental run-in at a park while he's there w/ his daughter. It won't be accidental for him or I but for the kids. I'll probably act as if it's an acquantince.
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Karmic, We have been together for 7 years, and married for 6 on 9/9 we got married 9/9/99 at 9am. My daughter's just turned 5.
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Use protection is one way re: the consequences. So far, I almost told my husband about the encounter last night. He knows I've been talking to my ex over the phone but that's it.