Hi Everyone,
About 4 years ago I made the biggest mistake of my life. I finished with my girlfriend of two years for no real reason. I was young, I wanted to go off and do my own thing and experience things etc etc. thereforeeeeeee I made a descision that by finishing with my girlfriend who i loved very much i would be able to live a little and have some fun. BIG Mistake.
Within about a week of being single I regretted breaking up with her and realised that if i wanted to do all those things then I could do them with her. I loved her and I realised i didn't want to be without her.
I phoned her up but within that week she had started seeing someone else!!! I couldn't believe it, we had only been single for a week and already she had moved on!! I was gutted; I could'nt believe she had done that to me.
We argued, said things we didn't mean. The next day I got togeter all her stuff; things she'd given me, pictures we had, letters she'd written me and put them all in a big envelope with a letter attached. The letter basically explained how I was feeling and how I now thought that becuase she had moved on so quickly, she was either seeing this guy behind my back or she was able to move on so quickly as prehaps she never really loved me. I was'nt nasty, just put my feelings accross very cleary.
I took this envelope into her work, put it on her desk and walked out. Never heard anymore from her.
Four years later, I am still thinking about her and don't know what to do.
Over the last four years I have tried to contact her on three occasions, just to say hello, apologise for everything that was said and to see if we could be friends again. I wrote her a lengthy friendly letter which I sent to her asking her to give me a call etc - never received a reply.
I sent her a bunch of flowers apologising - never received a reply.
I stupidly tried phoning her at work one day - she hung up on me by the time I had finished saying hello!
I still do not know why she hates me so much. By rejecting me everytime it has just made me more determined to speak to her and find out what I have done that has made her so mad at me.
We went through a lot together and she was my first love - i still think about her now, so she obviously means a lot to me - hence why I think it is important that we can become friends again - she was a very influential factor in my life.
Last week, I had the best news in my life - I found out that the bloke she went out with after me had finally split up with her after nearly four years. She was single again!!
Now this is where the problem comes in. Do i try and speak / contact her now she is single again or not?
Did she blank me before becuase she was with her new boyfriend; now she is single will she speak to me again? I can imagine it would be difficult to speak to her ex when she is with someone?
Or does she genuinely hate me and want nothing to do with me?
I want your advice on what I should do. Should I make a real effort to approach her after all this time and explain that I would like to know why she blanked me for so long and what I did to upset her? Or should I stay well away and forget it?
Should I visit her in person, send her some flowers or write a letter (the last two I have done before - but will they be effective now) or should I get a friend to go round and speak to her and see how the land lies?
I would really appreciate some advice on this as it is really driving me mad at the moment.
I don't necessarily want to get back with her, but I desperately want to find out what I did wrong and try and put it right so that we can become friends once again.
I would appreciate your comments.
Thankyou