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Hey guys I would really appreciate any insight or advice! When I started my grad school, I also started dating a guy from my school. Interestingly, he was also my neighbor and we would eventually share a lot of the same group of friends. We dated for about 7 months. We had a close relationship. regardless though, whenever we would get in fight I would at times say that "we weren't right for each other"...and I said that two three times...(and yes I know i was wrong). The last time I said it he said "you are right we should break up". I called him the next day and apologized and said that I wanted to give it another try...despite all this, he said that he thought we should break up. So anyway, all of that was back in May. We have been seeing each other of course since we go out to the same places (we live in a small town) and the fact that he is my neighbor. Our relationship is odd of course to say the least. However, lately, I have caught him on at least 5 occasions giving me the same look that he gave me last year when we started dating and i knew he liked me (even though he showed me no emotion) just by his special look. I guess you will only understand if you have had this type of exchange with someone. He never says anything but its just the way he looks at me. He kept his glance for a long time...sort of an elongated glance with a smile at the end. And I recall at one point I caught him looking at me. Basically, he looks at me very different from other people all the time but he really doesn't do much otherwise to establish a direct contact. He is always receptive and when I initiate something (which is very few times) he is always nice and willing. However, he is also a big macho guy and more so than other guys, he never wants to show weakness. I dont know what to make of them because everytime i look at his eyes and every time we give each other the "stare", I start longing for him even more!? what does it mean when a guy gives you that look and what do I make of this? I really really appreciate any feedback.

Thanks for yall's reply. It really helps to see you guys' point of view and I greatly appreciate any advice. Well just to update yall....I called him tonight because he asked me to update him on how I did on the exams...well I just made the conversation quick and I actually ended it first but at the end I just said have a good summer ...so basically I made it sound as if I dont expect or want him to call me back but then his response was "talk to you later" in a sorta "is it ok" way.....and I just said yes and we said bye...I made it clear that I was ok not talking to him so I did not quite understand his whole deal with talk to you later. Am I just looking too into this? But then again would a guy break up with you and then want you back....I just dont get the whole situation.

Well I really care for him....we started medical school together and we went through hard times with each other and I grew close to him. I feel like most of all I am losing a close confidant, friend, and companion. So I guess yes.

I started dating a guy from my graduate school the beginning of the year. It has been 7 months and I thought things were going well but back in Feb. he mentioned he needed space. I didn't want to have him in control of the situation so I came back telling him if you want space then let's just break it off. Well he wanted to continue so we did. His request for space made me scared and afterwards evert time we would get in arguments I would say I dont wanna be with you or why are we continuing this...etc. And I feel terrible about that but that was my defense mechanism even though clearly I didn't want that. So anyway, he broke up with me after we got into an argument and I mentioned that if he is going to be distant then maybe we should just be friends. He said that he is not ready for a relationship and he wants some time alone. Regardless, before our summer break began I saw him and his last words were "if I dont see you have a good summer" which I took it that he would never call me until the new year began. But then he called the next day to say that "i have your coat" which has been there for a long time (he said I should come and get it..I didn't...just told him to keep it till after our class resumes) and also to tell me to "call him when I get my grade..he wants to know how I did"...well this was all monday and I haven't called him yet. I am not sure what to do and I need yall's advice. Even though we said we obviously will be friends (we are in the same class...it is impossible not to see each other) but why does he call me a day afterwards and then say call me with your grades cause he wants to know how I did...I dont get it. And I am not sure if I should call him at all. Any advice is much appreciated. I am confused about the whole situation. Why would he call me the next day and then want me to call him back? Clearly he broke it off and to me this calling and keeping in contact is contradictory to what he wants. I am utterly confused. I would appreciate any help and advice.