I'm 42, in a committed relationship with a honest 52-yr-old man who treats me with a lot of love and appreciation. Having known of each other 20 years we became romantically involved only 10 months ago. When we became serious, there were truths that unfolded about him that I was unaware of such as having several prior relationships after his divorce and that he had cheated often on his ex-wife during the marriage because he'd explained that they had remained married mainly for their children. In my view, the past is history and he does have a strong reputation as being honest. He still keeps in contact with one particular girlfriend who is about half his age. All is working well except issues about the ex-girlfriend keep surfacing. If the past is history then why does he occasionally put out cards and pictures of this particular woman in his living room? We heatedly discussed it twice and decided not to pursue the issue again. I do know that he wants and loves me but, I'd like to put her memory behind. He say's they're still friends and that he cherishs old cards & gifts, etc. because he does love her only as a friend and they have coffee on rare occasions. Today as I waited for him to finish his shower for work, I discovered a sexy Valentine's card displayed on his coffee table that was dated 2004. We spent this past Valentine's day together and it was so beautiful. I can't help that it hurt my feelings to see that he dug out yet another momento. I haven't dated very much since my spouse died 3 years ago. Maybe I shouldn't pursue this relationship further.
