Stop worrying about getting into a relationship would be a good start. Do things that you like, and be happy. Once you achieve that, the guys will come.
That's what everyone keeps telling me, but because of my past experiences (rejection from the opposite sex, social ostracism) I have a feeling of entitlement when it comes to this part of my life (you know, promising myself that one day things'll be great, and I'll be like the female Hef or something... haha) and I fear that if I continue to neglect it by concentrating on my studies, music, etc. like I did in high school, it'll never manifest itself. My reasoning is "What else in life can you achieve by just ignoring it and assuming that it's just going to magically happen?"
College / university is a blast, even without a partner (even without beer). I mean, I have never dated, kissed a girl, had a gf, and I don't drink or go to wild parties, yet I love university. What do you want to get out of university? Do you really want to learn? Do you want to make new friends? Do you want to get involved in political organizations? How about cultural or recreational clubs? There is soooooo much to do at college other than dating and drinking....debating....writing....playing. LOve your college experience. Don't worry...you will find someone....who will love you!!!!!
I've joined a few organizations, and I'm great in my classes, although they're not that exciting -- I'm trying to get all of my general education courses out of the way this year. On top of my stagnant social life, I think I've chosen the wrong school. The whole atmosphere... it's like it's closed to me, if that makes any sense. Everything I wanted to believe about college, everything my sister told me about college... it just doesn't seem to apply here.
----just befriend guys. Get to know them. Be thier friend. Just go up to a guy you see often, smile, and ask him how he is feeling. Ask him how his weekend was. Ask him about his interests, his hobbies, his goals for the future. Ask him about his family (broths, sists). Ask him what he wants to do with his life. Ask him where he has travelled (or wants to travel). Talk, smile, and ask him!!!! Good luck
But I can barely even look anyone that I find remotely attractive in the eyes, let alone ask them about their personal business. I've tasted bitter rejection numerous times, and while I can survive it, my recovery time isn't that great. The few friends I have in school initiated conversations with me, never the other way around. That, and it's difficult for me to find people that I seem to have anything in common with.