Rosie3636

Day 16 Ive been having good moments and bad moments....i worked out today but slept alot of the day because i think im using alot of energy to get through the work day acting like nothing is wrong. I feel like im doing everything they say you are supposed to do during no contact. Im feeling great at the gym....so much stronger! I got my hair done on Wednesday and I got a ton of comments saying how great i look....less stressed and thinner.....he put a like on the picture right after I posted it. I saw an article posted by a friend and I added his name to it to read it...does that count at breaking no contact? I thought the bread crumb would make me feel better....but it didnt. So when is this supposed to get better? Im so so sick of people being like "just get over it".

Day 11 NC I have been doing everything they say you are supposed to do during NC....i just started an awesome job and its going great....ive been loosing weight (ive prolly lost about 8lbs since I last saw him, Im at 40lbs total) tons of activities with friends....and i still miss him and hate him at the same time for not reaching out to me. Today I did kickboxing an the instructor was like "damn girl, Id hate to be the guy who pissed you off!". Better to punch a bag right? My FB messenger lit up right before class and I didnt check it but thought about how I would answer if it was him...and realized I wouldnt really be ready to talk yet. It wasnt him anyway....but I guess its for the better.

I am currently on day 9 of no contact and I am surprised I made it this far. I had dated a man for about 7 months, and i started to get a bit needy/clingy in the "where are we going" dept. He has some MAJOR relationship issues due to an ex who he dated for 8 years and lived with and she has recently come back into his life after getting married and divorced. He broke things off but stated he wanted everything to stay the same, but just stop the romantic part. He also gave me a timeline...we can be together until x date and then we are done. Who gives a deadline to a breakup??? I said i felt in my gut of guts that he didnt want to do this and he said its not what I want but what I need(he is having alot of trouble with his family and work) . I said I couldn't go straight from being lovers to friends and that we would need a significant time of no contact before i could consider being jut a friend. We had a very heated argument over the fact that I needed a break to make my feelings for him go away. I feel guilty over some of the things I said to him....such as its your choice to throw us away. Now...he has liked a few of my statuses on fb...one that was a bit weird. A guy we both know has pursued me for quite some time and like a week after we broke up this other guy wrote on my facebook page that he missed me and would love to see me. My guy liked that comment. Im confused. Ive been getting so much different info on what I should do. I have read that some day during nc you ignore all reaching out and some say mirror his behavior. I liked one of his statuses. I saw a psychic who said he needs me and i should put my pride aside and get in touch with him. My close friends say good riddance and never talk to him again. Mirror or no contact completely? I dont want to block him on FB but I did take his number out of my phone. We havent actually seen eachother in almost a month (the final blow up was over the phone)...in that month I started a new job and I have lost 7lbs (I have been on a weight loss journey and Im almost at 40lbs) I costume design for a community theater and teach one night a week at a community college. Anything else I can do to keep him off my mind/better my self? Sorry its a long story but I appreciate advice from anyone at this point! I will say Im doing better then day 1.....but at this point im starting to get the "why didnt he contact me" blues.