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Actually, I just realized I'm going to see our mutual friend next week. So, I think I'm going to hold off on the phone call and just wait to talk to him and see what is up. I think some important details are being lost when I'm finding info from his sister instead of directly from him....

I think she may just want to be chased a little too. I can deal with immature. I'm not the most mature person myself. Basically, I think I just wanted to hear from someone that I should call her, because I would like to call her. Just needed a little reinforcement on it. And how to approach the situation and what to say.

Well, I'm looking for more than friends, I have plenty of friends. Somehow, I may come off the bad guy out of this. That is my other problem. I think the communication issues may possibly be our age difference. I'm 30 and she's 22. My thought is either that she is afraid of that or to immature to handle that and this is her way of dealing with it.

OK, kind of a long story, just to get to where I am today. So, here it is: Met this girl at a friends wedding, and it's basically Murphy's Law, I went there not expecting to meet anyone there because I thought I knew everyone that would be there. But I was wrong. Anyway, she was a date of one of my friends (distant friend, more of an aquaintence), they just went as friends, and he told me that. Anyway, she expressed to some of my friends that she thought I was cute and wanted to meet me. I'm on the shy side, but after some friends took it upon themselves to just throw us together and start dancing. Anyway, we hit it off, went out after the wedding. I drove her home. Kiss goodnight. So far so good. Well I get her number and we play a bit of phone tag, but go out like 2 weeks later. She was supposed to call me and didn't, so I called her, left a message and didn't hear from her. But, she told our mutual friends she's really into me, and can't wait to go out again. So, I bite the bullet and against my better judgement I called her again, she answered and before I could she suggested we go out over the weekend. So, she said she'd call me the next day so we could plan something for that saturday, and I didn't hear from her til that Saturday at 5 where she proceeded to cancel because she had friends come in town and they were going to have a girls night out. I understood, didn't 100 % buy it, but found out later it was true. Anyway I call her again a couple of days later and don't hear from her. Now, here's the dilemma. I really like this girl, and I continue to hear from mutual friends that she is nuts about me, but I can't get this girl to return a phone call. 1 of our mutual friends told his sister, who told me, that he was really hoping I wouldn't screw her over cause she's a really nice girl and has been a friend of his and his wifes for a long time. So, I know she's interested, I'm not a naive kid either. I just don't know what her deal is. So, after that LONG story, basically my questions is: Should I continue to try to call her? If I do and do talk to her, should I call her out on the fact that she is flaky about return phone calls?

OK, I fit the shy guy persona. I met a girl at a wedding on Saturday and got her number. I called her but she didn't answer. I'm not concerned with that because I'm fairly sure she is working. But I wanted to at least get the call in to her. There are multiple facets to my dilemmas. First, I'm bad at small talk. I don't know what kind of questions to ask, and I prefer to ask questions so I don't have to talk myself. I would like to have a decent conversation before I ask her out. I don't have a problem with asking her to go out, but I don't want that to be the only part of our conversation. Secondly, on the date, what are other good conversation pieces that would be good for a first date. The other facet to the dilemma, and may effect the answer is, there is a bit of an age difference. I'm 30 and she's 22. So, she's just coming out of college, and I'm way past that (not the lifestyle, it's just a different age group and way of life) So, any help I can get I would greatly appreciate.....