Hi. I have never posted on a message board, but I am in real need of advice and someone to listen. I have recently been dumped and it was the shock of my life. I had been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and I thought that we had such a future in store for us. The back story is that I had moved several states away from "home" because of a job and luckily I had a good friend from school here, so I moved in with her. At the time, I had a boyfriend back home, but I met "Mr. Perfect" here. He worked with my roomate and he was just beautiful and funny and smart and we clicked and before I knew it, he had me breaking up with my old boyfriend and I was with him. Now, we were not perfect. We argued, as most people do, but it was about trivial stuff and we did not see eye to eye on all things, but we had fun together and there was passion and I never thought that I could care so deeply for someone. We were together all the time.
Anyway, he recently purchased a home, and he considered me in every aspect of it from the building of it to the decorating of it. I poured my energy (and more that a little $$) into it - thinking long term. However, things obviously took a bad turn... I think it could have been stress-induced or money-induced, but we had been bickering about silly things. We were still together all the time, still emailing, calling, "I love yous" but then he just dumped me. He told me that out personalities do not "mesh" well enough that there could be a long-term future. He said we argue too much (I guess at all means too much). He floored me and surprised me and now he wont talk to me. He asked me not to contact him and I'm respecting that, but how does one turn it iff like that or become so cold so fast? I know there is noone else - my roomate would have seen it if I couldn't. It is like he just stopped dead in his tracks and I am so sad. We had tons of future plans. He was my whole world out here away from home. I am so far from everyone minus my roomate and I just want to know why this happens. I loved him, and I love him and I feel so blindsided. I will see him all the time b/c we have mutual friends. I have not seen him yet, but I fear that more than anything. I feel like my heart has been torn from me... I can't eat and I can't sleep and I just wanted to talk about it a little. I feel so cheated and so foolish and it just hurts...
