confusedchick

I have every intention in the world to fix things. I am not trying to mess with his head at all. I made a huge mistake by dating/seeing another guy. I know I did. I have not and will not date anybody again, even though we aren't presently together. I really appreciate your post and I assure you I am not out there to break his heart.

Thank you very much for your post. I will look into those books and read them. I really appreciate your honest reaction/advice. Thank you so much!

I really feel like a jerk! Thank you so much for your post. I will pm you with information regarding the actual break up so that you understand a little further. It is complicated and I really didn't want to delve into it on the message board. Any response to that will be appreciated.

Ok ya'll I need some quick advice. Here is my story and I will keep it short. My husband and I separated about a year ago. We just fought a lot but we are really in love with each other. Me, being a female and needing a guy, went out and found a "rebound" and eventually moved in with this rebound. Needless to say, I would call my husband on the weekends and cry and tell him I loved him ect. Ect. I know it hurt my husband that I went and lived with another guy but he was just a rebound. I am no longer living with the rebound and I really want to work things out with my husband. We have a little girl together and I do believe, we both believe, we are each others soulmates. I guess I am just very guilty about what happened but I still really love him. This past weekend we hooked up, hung out and sex, it was wonderful but we established that we aren't back together. How do I work on things after what I have done? I am very confused. Thank you for your help.

He has way more "straight" porn than any other kind. He also has lesbian porn. He has very little gay porn in comparision to the other stuff. If I had to put a percentage on each I would say 95% straight, 4% Lesbian, and 1% gay. Just a break down. I think he was telling the truth. If he wasn't it is on him, all i can do is trust what he says.

He was in theatre in college. There are tons of gay guys that acted with him and one mistook him for being gay. It did freak him out and he realized he couldn't do it, it meaning having a relationship, physically, with a guy. I do appreciate the posts you all are awesome. It helped me choose what to do initially and i do appreciate it.

I went and asked him about the porn. He told me he has never had a crush on a guy. He watches porn because reg. porn gets boring. He assured me he wasn't gay or bi-sexual. He says he isn't sexually attracted to guys and sex is sex. I just took it for what he said. He said he tried to "like other guys" but it never worked. He says he hasn't ever had a crush on a guy and when a guy tired to kiss him it freaked him out and he couldn't do it. I still don't know how truthful he is but I told him I would have to trust him and what he says. Any comments?

ty so much. So this sounds like closet gay? I am in tears at the moment. I am going to have to confront him and i love him. I am totally upset b/c i feel totally betrayed. Again, thank you for your help.

I am living with my boyfriend. He has some feminine qualities but nothing that made me question his sexuality. I was downloading a program onto his computer and found a ton a very explict gay *man on man*porn. It was hidden deep in his computer. Right now I am having a mixture of emotions and I do not know how to ask him about this. Does this mean he is gay, or bi-sexual. Please help. The thing that may bother me the most is he downloaded gay porn the day before we moved in together.