lashleya1213

Thanks for your reply- Its just that this is so much more complicated than it may seem. We have grown up together, and our relationship gets stronger every day (And every time I can actually talk out a problem we have). I know I want to spend my life with him, and he tells me all the time that he wants the same. I have had the same advice given to me about how he may be controlling, and how he doesn't have a good listening ear. His dad is the same way- I hate it! He says its because he is a guy. We talk numerous times each day, and there is no reason for me to accuse him of cheating on me. I just think about things that probably aren't even happening, and it gets me down. I can't wait to talk to him today to ask the questions you said to ask, like why he cheated on me in the first place. See, I cheated on him too back when we were young and immature, and now I am a completely different person. He's never asked about the past, and doesn't seem to worry at all like me. If he were to ask me why I cheated on him...I don't know what I would say...Maybe that I was just young and hadn't ever been with anyone else- Temptation was something that I gave in to easily...It wasn't even that I just think I had a lot of self-esteem issues, and when other guys showed intrest, I thought that was good. Who knows. I just want to get our past out of the present...And Live for the future. Its very helpful that you added what questions to ask- Its hard for me to put my feelings in words I feel he'll understand without getting mad. I'm just rambling on now, but if there's anything else you could say to help- I'm all ears. Thanks Again- PS, He doesn't go to nightclubs, He rarely goes to the bar and rarely drinks...

Hello. I am new to this website as of tonight, but I also feel its something I've needed and I want to tell you that I am experiencing practically the same thing right now in my relationship. Its weird isn't it? I also need advice for this problem with mistrust for no reason...And the checking of the phones, email, etc. Im always wondering...My boyfriend turned 21 last Nov....Its funny how we feel so old and knowledgeable but when we actually say our age we feel young and dumb for bringing this up. Im just 19...20 In Dec. I've been with my b/f for 5 years now...Off and on..But no more off's, we've promised to give it all or nothing...I'd like to hear how things are going with you if you don't mind...Hope everything works itself out...

I've been having some trust issues...My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years now...Since highschool, And then we were bad to eachother, and cheated, lied, etc. We came to a point last summer where we decided to be together forever, and it was all or nothing no lies, forgive and forget, You get the picture. Things have gone great the whole year. But I have had a few small problems trusting him. At the beginning of the summer, I moved back home to work, Its only an hour and a half away from him, but every time we see eachother...The following few days or so is filled with thoughts of him thinking about other girls...This is weird. I'm always flooded with little images of him with his friends talking about other girls...looking at other girls...but not cheating. Like Porn for example...It bugs me so bad, and I'll never be okay with my boyfriend looking at it. I think its so disgusting and it makes me feel horrible. Every time I tell him what I'm thinking, he gets angry and doesn't talk about anything. Its making me insecure, and I don't know how to get him to talk about whats on his mind the way that I do... I know he wouldn't cheat on me...Its just these little things that bug the hell out of me. This is going way to far, and I'm feeling anxious a lot of the time...Its really late right now, and I can't sleep because I just came back home today...And I know he's out with his friends...I just can't help but wonder whats going on...This is horrible! How can I make these stupid incinuations stop!?