All right...
I can say that this is a terrible place to be...
I can say that.
But honestly, you don't need this. You don't need any of this.
First of all, he's done. You have to face it. I have fallen into similar holes and I know that you don't want to leave...
You think, if only I had said this...
or if only I had done this for him.
But it's all talk in the end.
Who wants to be with someone who doesn't want to be with them either? I mean, your relationship could never be the same again. Not after he left you for her. Even if he professed his love for you again, there is no trust.
That is why you are golden. You are free... for the first time in seven years. You don't realize how lucky you are. (take a breath)
There are over a billion men on the planet. You probably don't know a hundred.
There is a large list of don't when you're suffering a loss...
One is DON'T drink.
I believe there is a quote about using depressives to feel better... it's ironic.
One is DON'T call him.
I have been through this...
Every time I went to call her, instead I wrote an email that I never sent. It became self therapy. I told her all of the things that I was too afraid to say.
And in reality, she never knew.
My advice...
I think my advice is to take a vacation.
Take a week off from work, get your life together. Go dancing. Go to a party. Try to meet some nice guys.
Remember, you cannot run away from your feelings or what he did to you. But you can step back, look at where you are, and take advantage of your new freedom.
Remember, if nothing else works, smile. That's all... just smile.
because there are nice guys out there... I'm one of them, I know. I also know that a cheater is worth nothing as far as I'm concerned. Honesty IS the best policy...
I wouldn't be with a liar if she was the last one on earth.
:smile:
