My partner bought a set of loving-angles - sort of building blocks for adults. So What you might say.... well for us it was a fantastic boost for our sex life, got us talking and making great sex a priority again.
Maybe you should introduce something like this into your sex life... when you have a set of loving-angles conversation becomes unavoidable, because it becomes something central but easy to talk about.
Check it out and you might understand what I'm saying ... it's hard to describe properly.