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If you connect to the work WiFi or network, every keystroke goes from your computer to the company network (where it's recorded) and THEN to the website you're using. They have a record of everything you do on it. Both private companies and government agencies. A former coworker used to send sexy messages to her husband (who also worked for the company). They were so embarrassed when their messages were read by IT and the in-house IT person teased them.

Do you use this site on your work computer? I would strongly encourage you not to do that. Everything you do on your work computer is recorded by your company's IT department regardless of whether you delete it or not. It's not just on your computer's hard drive. Anything and everything is accessible to them. I would recommend you use your personal cell phone (like I do). Secure and private.

Some of the people in Supply Chain are trying to drag me into their processes. I do not work in the Supply Chain department and will not do any of their functions. They always say "we just want you to be aware of how the processes work!" which translates into them trying to get me to take over some of their work. Not going to happen UNLESS they give me a significant raise. Their manager just quit so they're scrambling but they need to address that within their own department.

What would happen if you get to California and meet a high powered career man who meets all of your desired criteria? Do you truly feel you'd resist being attracted to him because you have this other guy back at your previous home? If someone has to fundamentally change to be right for you, they're wrong for you. And that goes both ways.

All those nice things you think and feel and say about her? She probably thinks and feels and says similar things about you.

If you are successful in getting your deposit back may I recommend you choose a different destination? If you choose the same dates, destination and lodging she could show up and cause all sorts of drama.

You're still planning to take her on this vacation? I wouldn't expect any "good will". She can use the money as ransom to try to force you into reconciling. I would contact Air BnB and/or the property owner and explain the situation.

Do you have to get the money back from her or from the vacation destination?

So she's not even divorced yet but she was already on a dating site? Interesting. I'm glad she did you the courtesy of telling you. Now you can move forward. Oh, and I recommend being proactive about dating others. Don't wait around in case she changes her mind.

I slept better last night. Although I had another weird dream. I have some dreams that recur every so often. In this one I was driving the car I had before I bought the one I have now. I was driving up a VERY steep hill. For some reason I got out of the car and walked up some stairs, then had to retrieve my car at the top of the steep hill. I've had this dream before. Weird. Almost all of my dreams involve either leaving some place and driving or driving and arriving at some place. My family features prominently in these dreams too. But I'm grateful for being able to sleep.

No one can be "stolen" without their own consent. Plus, he had feelings for her before. You can choose not to accept the situation but it won't change anything. All your refusal will do is make you miserable, it won't bring him back to you. You're obviously educated and intelligent. Many men would want to date someone like you. But you'll never meet any of them if you insist on focusing on someone who doesn't want to be in a relationship with you and who is actually with someone else.

If she reconciles with her ex would you still want to stick around being her "friend"? Could you tolerate visiting their shared home? Or would it hurt?

She'll be nice long enough to ensure you're hooked. So, probably a few hours. Then once you agree to give her "another chance" she'll go right back to berating you and making accusations and name calling. You've seen this movie before. Many times. It's up to you if you want to put yourself through this another dozen times.

Remember, she didn't say that. You did. You can completely sabotage this promising relationship by punishing her for your insecurities. Or you can figure out how to get a grip and enjoy what you have. Which option sounds better?

Also want to add, the usual "fixes" for digestive issues don't work for me. Probiotics, fiber pills, laxatives don't work. And I already drink a lot of water. Also don't drink sodas or coffee.