boltnrun

Be careful not to keep harping on this. At some point he could get tired of reassuring you. He also might start wondering what exactly he has to do to get you to trust that he's not lying to you or concealing anything from you. He might wonder why you persist in believing he still loves his ex and will drop you in an instant to be back with her. It gets really old when someone refuses to believe you're being truthful with them. So learn to self-soothe. Or you may end up bringing about the very thing you're fearing. Remember what I said about manifesting bad things? Don't do that.

Avoiding the issue will almost guarantee it will continue. I get that you don't want your last few weeks there to be unpleasant but they will be if she's allowed to use abusive language with zero repercussions.

Unfortunately, Alex, this seems to be EVERY environment you're in. Also applies to everyone you encounter AND your family, friends, your brother's girlfriend, and on and on. It's impossible that every single person you encounter is worthy of contempt, is a hapless, uninformed dimwit or does everything stupidly. Someone in your life has to be a decent and/or intelligent person.

Remember, if you look for trouble you'll usually find it. Or manifest it.

Instead of your (bad) habit of dredging up things to be upset about, how about deciding to write about things you are grateful for? Not one or two sentences (in contrast to the long, detailed multiple paragraphs you write about what you dislike or feel contempt toward) but what you have that's good in your life. If you focus on negativity, guess how you'll feel?

BTW, if he wanted a woman just like his ex... wouldn't he still BE with his ex???

I was married to my husband for 14 years. Got together when I was a teenager. After we divorced I felt absolutely zero desire to reconcile. None. Zip. Zilch. The length of the relationship had zero to do with the fact that we were and are no longer compatible. And we share a child, BTW. Never interfered with either of us dating or forming new relationships.

Some people I work with like to chit chat. Others put their heads down and work. There are some people in my office whose names I don't even know because they have never spoken to me. It doesn't prevent me from doing my job. You were hired to do things her way, not yours. It is interesting that the positives were like two sentences but your complaints are multiple long paragraphs. Have you ever considered keeping a positivity journal?

You weren't hired to change the way she runs her business. You were hired to do specific tasks. If there are impediments to completing those tasks, continue to let her know and don't proceed until she gives you a solid answer. If she complains that things aren't getting done, remind her you have unanswered questions and you can proceed once she provides the answers. You could market yourself to businesses as a consultant but it will take some time to find clients. That could be an option to pursue. If you're as good at marketing as you say you are this shouldn't be a problem.

Yeah, my ex husband encouraged me to be a stay at home mom and wife. He said "I don't see why you need to be stressed out all the time. I can take care of the financial stuff." Sounds nice, right? But when I expressed an opinion on something he would say "You don't contribute so you don't get a say." He also called me "spoiled" because I drove a nicer vehicle than he did. Um, excuse me? I "contributed" by caring for our child, cleaning, cooking, buying groceries and generally keeping our home. And HE said he didn't want me to work! Also, HE chose the car. So I decided to go back to work. Of course he whined about it because dinner wasn't ready at 6:00 pm like he had gotten used to and he kept telling me I didn't "need" to work, but I reminded him what he'd said about me not contributing. He wanted me at home so he would have total control, not because he was truly worried about my stress level. Oh, and he didn't want us to have any friends and I tend to make friends at work so that was another factor. No, he didn't abuse me but he definitely wanted that isolation factor. And he's not a terrible person. He's a good father and a hard worker, but he had some serious blind spots when it came to husband/wife interactions and what a woman's wifely role "should" be. That was a major reason why I divorced him.

I don't see why it's necessary to subject yourself to a toxic environment in order to build your career.

No, it's upsetting when someone at work treats you rudely. When that man spoke to me the way he did I remained calm and resolute in front of him but when I reported him to my manager my voice was shaking. Not out of fear but out of anger. I was furious that this man thought it was acceptable to tell me my brain doesn't know how to process information. So yes, it is upsetting. But I'll be g*d damned if I'm going to accept being spoken to that way. I wasn't going to slink away. I worked too hard to get into management and that man wasn't going to destroy my fortitude. You can do this!

It's illegal in the US. It's a federal crime, not specific to any one state. And yes, talking about all the sex you have can absolutely be considered sexual harassment. Trust Rainbows, she works in the legal profession!

I worked somewhere where I was the most senior employee in the office after THREE WEEKS. Yep, in that three weeks everyone else quit (except the owner's wife). That place was horribly toxic. Money and fancy titles can't make up for a toxic work environment IMO.

Definitely cannot mention sex or having sex. You absolutely could be termed on the spot for saying something like that. You can set boundaries without being offensive or crossing the line into being inappropriate.